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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708393" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I should have specifically said that although we (some) had problems while we launched, like my mental illness which was quite a challenge, and although some of us were a mess, like me as a learning disabled scapegoat of a dysfunctional family, we were away from home and independent and, in my case, actively seeking help. I think most parents here actually launched pretty well. And I dont know that any of us spat at our parents or pushed them or demeaned them or sold drugs on the streets while living on the dime of our folks.</p><p></p><p>If I would have spat at my parents, and it never crossed my mind, I would have been locked out without my clothes and sent packing. These are just some of the things our adult kids have done to us.</p><p></p><p>No matter how troubled or confused our adult men and women are (like I was) none of them have the right to cuss at us, demean us, spit in our faces, shove us, hit us, bring drugs into the homes, etc. We didnt do that to our parents no matter how tough we had it, and some of us were abused. Our adult kids, unless schizophrenic and out of touch with reality, have NO RIGHT to take their confusion and angst out on us in mentally and physically abusive ways. We love them more than our own lives. There is no excuse . None. We did not do this and they have no right. Having troubled histories doesnt give them passes to deface our property, crash our cars without guilt or threaten us.</p><p></p><p>I doubt any of us even thought to spit at or strike a parent or to steal from home. Hurting ourselves, Im sure some did. Hurting our parents while living with them in ways our adult children who brought us here do...I will take a guess and say that none of us did that. Even if we were struggling badly or mentally ill, i dont believe anyone here hurt our parents the way our kids hurt us.</p><p></p><p>I might add that others have suffered like some of our kids are do well. Not all kids with troubling birthparents feel they must self destruct and be like them. Sonic didnt and he understands that his birthmother was an addict. Jumpers birthfather is in prison. She doesnt act out. Also suicide of a parent is horrible but again not all kids of suicide do poorly. Of course, some do. </p><p></p><p>A lot of this is genetics, but there is nothing in the genes that forces our kids to abuse us. They choose to do that and in my opinion there is no excuse...all the kids we speak about on this forum were loved very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708393, member: 1550"] I should have specifically said that although we (some) had problems while we launched, like my mental illness which was quite a challenge, and although some of us were a mess, like me as a learning disabled scapegoat of a dysfunctional family, we were away from home and independent and, in my case, actively seeking help. I think most parents here actually launched pretty well. And I dont know that any of us spat at our parents or pushed them or demeaned them or sold drugs on the streets while living on the dime of our folks. If I would have spat at my parents, and it never crossed my mind, I would have been locked out without my clothes and sent packing. These are just some of the things our adult kids have done to us. No matter how troubled or confused our adult men and women are (like I was) none of them have the right to cuss at us, demean us, spit in our faces, shove us, hit us, bring drugs into the homes, etc. We didnt do that to our parents no matter how tough we had it, and some of us were abused. Our adult kids, unless schizophrenic and out of touch with reality, have NO RIGHT to take their confusion and angst out on us in mentally and physically abusive ways. We love them more than our own lives. There is no excuse . None. We did not do this and they have no right. Having troubled histories doesnt give them passes to deface our property, crash our cars without guilt or threaten us. I doubt any of us even thought to spit at or strike a parent or to steal from home. Hurting ourselves, Im sure some did. Hurting our parents while living with them in ways our adult children who brought us here do...I will take a guess and say that none of us did that. Even if we were struggling badly or mentally ill, i dont believe anyone here hurt our parents the way our kids hurt us. I might add that others have suffered like some of our kids are do well. Not all kids with troubling birthparents feel they must self destruct and be like them. Sonic didnt and he understands that his birthmother was an addict. Jumpers birthfather is in prison. She doesnt act out. Also suicide of a parent is horrible but again not all kids of suicide do poorly. Of course, some do. A lot of this is genetics, but there is nothing in the genes that forces our kids to abuse us. They choose to do that and in my opinion there is no excuse...all the kids we speak about on this forum were loved very much. [/QUOTE]
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