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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 434433" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I agree- I think she has lost so much credibility that not many people would believe anything she said whether it had ever been true or not. You know, it's unfortunate that perhaps that was some horrible background of abuse but the fact that no one will believe that now....well....she has no one but herself to blame for that. I thought I'd never say that a victim "shouldn't" be believed but Goodness...how could anyone believe anything she says?</p><p></p><p>DDD- I like your thinking in your last post. Just think though, what it might possibly be like for a person whose difficult child not only had something to do (more than likely) with the death of the grandbaby, or at least covered it up, then accused your husband of causing it because he'd sexually abused her for years as a child. Like a previous poster mentioned, this does go WAY beyond anything those of us here have had to deal with. TG!!! I can't imagine their family, even without Casey at home and free, ever being able to heal and survive as a family unit. There will be more pain and outfall in this family once this trial is over and Casey's future is determined and they adjust to that. THEN Cindy and George will have to do with all those "what ifs" that will surely come to Cindy's mind. What IF Lee did try something- not that it justified what Casey did, but how will that affeect how Cindy handles any future child Lee has after he's married, for example.</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion, I know it seems like the only feasible way to make sure a baby is taken care of and keep a family supporting each other, but I have only heard of one situation where a family helped a young pregnant daughter and didn't end up overly attached to the baby themselves, the daughter/young mother resenting it, the others feeling the daughter/young mother was/is ungrateful, the baby growing up feeling torn and thinking he has to choose which one to be loyal to, etc. It usually leaves hard feelings in a family for generations. That's just what I've seen ...not gospel for everyone.</p><p></p><p>DDD- could you ever tell your daughter the good things you have seen her do as a parent? Not saying she did good when it was really a huge mistake, but the things you just mentioned below- have you been able to communicate and acknowledge that to her without bringing up a "but....this undid it" or "this was worse than any good you did", etc.? I am working hard these days to get back to a point where I can do this with my son. Once we have crossed that line, it seems so hard to regroup enough to acknowledge and let the difficult child know that we still know he/she isn't all bad, while still staying detached enough to not get soaked back into it when we really can never go back and put rose-colored glasses on, Know what I mean?? Acceptance of a person is so much easier when it isn't our own difficult child it seems. But maybe that can go a long way if we can find a good emotional balance within ourselves....still seeing the negative qualities but just accepting them and learning how to keep our appropriate boundaries with them, yet still loving the difficult child and trying hard to build a relationship on what good there is in him/her....Just thinking "out loud".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 434433, member: 3699"] I agree- I think she has lost so much credibility that not many people would believe anything she said whether it had ever been true or not. You know, it's unfortunate that perhaps that was some horrible background of abuse but the fact that no one will believe that now....well....she has no one but herself to blame for that. I thought I'd never say that a victim "shouldn't" be believed but Goodness...how could anyone believe anything she says? DDD- I like your thinking in your last post. Just think though, what it might possibly be like for a person whose difficult child not only had something to do (more than likely) with the death of the grandbaby, or at least covered it up, then accused your husband of causing it because he'd sexually abused her for years as a child. Like a previous poster mentioned, this does go WAY beyond anything those of us here have had to deal with. TG!!! I can't imagine their family, even without Casey at home and free, ever being able to heal and survive as a family unit. There will be more pain and outfall in this family once this trial is over and Casey's future is determined and they adjust to that. THEN Cindy and George will have to do with all those "what ifs" that will surely come to Cindy's mind. What IF Lee did try something- not that it justified what Casey did, but how will that affeect how Cindy handles any future child Lee has after he's married, for example. in my humble opinion, I know it seems like the only feasible way to make sure a baby is taken care of and keep a family supporting each other, but I have only heard of one situation where a family helped a young pregnant daughter and didn't end up overly attached to the baby themselves, the daughter/young mother resenting it, the others feeling the daughter/young mother was/is ungrateful, the baby growing up feeling torn and thinking he has to choose which one to be loyal to, etc. It usually leaves hard feelings in a family for generations. That's just what I've seen ...not gospel for everyone. DDD- could you ever tell your daughter the good things you have seen her do as a parent? Not saying she did good when it was really a huge mistake, but the things you just mentioned below- have you been able to communicate and acknowledge that to her without bringing up a "but....this undid it" or "this was worse than any good you did", etc.? I am working hard these days to get back to a point where I can do this with my son. Once we have crossed that line, it seems so hard to regroup enough to acknowledge and let the difficult child know that we still know he/she isn't all bad, while still staying detached enough to not get soaked back into it when we really can never go back and put rose-colored glasses on, Know what I mean?? Acceptance of a person is so much easier when it isn't our own difficult child it seems. But maybe that can go a long way if we can find a good emotional balance within ourselves....still seeing the negative qualities but just accepting them and learning how to keep our appropriate boundaries with them, yet still loving the difficult child and trying hard to build a relationship on what good there is in him/her....Just thinking "out loud". [/QUOTE]
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