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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 760057" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Boy has it been awhile since I have been on this site. I am doing well but revisiting since having recent contact with Tornado. She was in and out of jail, and ended up pregnant. GULP! On the street until a week before giving birth. (Eye roll). Big sigh. She is in rehab now with her baby. We shall see how that goes. I have had to revisit detachment as her therapist wants me to attend sessions so she can “reconnect”. I have hesitatingly agreed, but have come to realize her view of me is still the same, I should drop everything and cater to her needs. Um no. I have a long way to go with the whole love says no philosophy. Found myself backsliding to what if’s and such. “What if she relapses? If I say no?” She asked me if I would take care of the baby if need be and I said no. That was not easy, but realistically I am not young enough to care for an infant, I have her now teen aged daughter and do not think that is fair to her. Plus, hello you had this kid, he is your responsibility, so keep clean and don’t risk having him placed elsewhere. Tornado is still prone to blowouts when she can’t get her way, blaming me, expecting to “come home” ahhhh NO! We have already been through the revolving door scenario for several hellish years, why oh why would I put myself in that predicament again? So, I will use the safety of the next therapist session to tell her, and let her know that I will not be listening to belligerent talk. She hung up on me after telling her no, then called repeatedly. I did not pick up. “Er, hello you hung up on me, conversation over, I am taking a break.”</p><p>So not using, yes, but still trying to use me. Not having it. </p><p>Rain is still in the park and seems content to be there. I for the life of me can’t imagine how anyone could live in such squalor. I don’t hear much from her. But, she did get a stimulus debit card through my mail, so of course she appeared. Imagine that, $1400 to a homeless meth addict. Good Lord have mercy.</p><p>I have no control over what my two daughters do with their adult lives.</p><p> My three well children are living pretty decent lives and taking care of their responsibilities, thank goodness.</p><p>I hope all of you are well and have not been too ill affected by this pandemic. </p><p>I am busy in my jungle garden trying to combat arthritis and Covid long haul symptoms. All of this has driven me to put in my retirement papers, I will be on a tight budget but trying to live my best life!</p><p>Love and (((hugs))) to all! Hang in there and stay strong!</p><p>New Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 760057, member: 19522"] Boy has it been awhile since I have been on this site. I am doing well but revisiting since having recent contact with Tornado. She was in and out of jail, and ended up pregnant. GULP! On the street until a week before giving birth. (Eye roll). Big sigh. She is in rehab now with her baby. We shall see how that goes. I have had to revisit detachment as her therapist wants me to attend sessions so she can “reconnect”. I have hesitatingly agreed, but have come to realize her view of me is still the same, I should drop everything and cater to her needs. Um no. I have a long way to go with the whole love says no philosophy. Found myself backsliding to what if’s and such. “What if she relapses? If I say no?” She asked me if I would take care of the baby if need be and I said no. That was not easy, but realistically I am not young enough to care for an infant, I have her now teen aged daughter and do not think that is fair to her. Plus, hello you had this kid, he is your responsibility, so keep clean and don’t risk having him placed elsewhere. Tornado is still prone to blowouts when she can’t get her way, blaming me, expecting to “come home” ahhhh NO! We have already been through the revolving door scenario for several hellish years, why oh why would I put myself in that predicament again? So, I will use the safety of the next therapist session to tell her, and let her know that I will not be listening to belligerent talk. She hung up on me after telling her no, then called repeatedly. I did not pick up. “Er, hello you hung up on me, conversation over, I am taking a break.” So not using, yes, but still trying to use me. Not having it. Rain is still in the park and seems content to be there. I for the life of me can’t imagine how anyone could live in such squalor. I don’t hear much from her. But, she did get a stimulus debit card through my mail, so of course she appeared. Imagine that, $1400 to a homeless meth addict. Good Lord have mercy. I have no control over what my two daughters do with their adult lives. My three well children are living pretty decent lives and taking care of their responsibilities, thank goodness. I hope all of you are well and have not been too ill affected by this pandemic. I am busy in my jungle garden trying to combat arthritis and Covid long haul symptoms. All of this has driven me to put in my retirement papers, I will be on a tight budget but trying to live my best life! Love and (((hugs))) to all! Hang in there and stay strong! New Leaf [/QUOTE]
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