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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 325394" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Get husband to read it too, ask him what he thinks and if he has anything to add or even contradict. If he's the SAH carer, he may find there are things we've missed, or things he can clarify.</p><p></p><p>We had a Communnication Book for difficult child 3 at school. It lived in his school bag, I would write in it anything of relevance to the teacher, they would write back anything of even vague importance. It removed the need for daily debriefs on the classroom steps. It gave us both time away from the problems and ensured ongoing good communication.</p><p>What I found it gave us - insight. We had problems developing (often) and when either we or the teachers read back in the book, we sometimes saw a connection developing that otherwise we might have missed. For example, I realised there was a strong connection between deteriorating behaviour and difficult child 3 coming down with acold or some other bug. While he was really ill his behaviour would be perfect. But the few days before symptoms appeared, he would be horrible. I remember one Friday, it had been a bad week and he had incurred a number of behaviour black marks. He set off for school Friday morning determined to do better (as he had every day) but this time the teacher reported he had been as good as gold. He had a challenging day and seemed to cope well. They had a break in routine (which used to upset him, usually) and he took it in his stride.</p><p>He came in the door fairly quietly, came to me abd sat beside me while I was watching TV. Then his head rested on my arm and I felt his skin - he was burning up! He had a fever of 39.7 C (103.4 F). Looking back through the notes in the book plus a later talk to the teacher, we think the fever developed at about midday. He must have had a pounding headache but he never said anything or gave anyone the idea that there was anything wrong - to him, he didn't notice anything more than usual because his anxiety was usually ramped so high and while feverish, his body had too much to think about for the anxiety to get a look-in. so it balanced out for him. And the changes in his body as the illness developed, had stopped changing. The fever was in, there was no more change. It was there.</p><p></p><p>So sharing info and ideas can sometimes help give a perspective shift that can make our lives easier.</p><p></p><p>I'm a long way away, I could be way short of the mark. But I've lived with this in various forms three times over, so I may have some ideas which could help. By sharing and comparing (as we do on this site) we have a better chance of pinpointing some likely avenues to investigate.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 325394, member: 1991"] Get husband to read it too, ask him what he thinks and if he has anything to add or even contradict. If he's the SAH carer, he may find there are things we've missed, or things he can clarify. We had a Communnication Book for difficult child 3 at school. It lived in his school bag, I would write in it anything of relevance to the teacher, they would write back anything of even vague importance. It removed the need for daily debriefs on the classroom steps. It gave us both time away from the problems and ensured ongoing good communication. What I found it gave us - insight. We had problems developing (often) and when either we or the teachers read back in the book, we sometimes saw a connection developing that otherwise we might have missed. For example, I realised there was a strong connection between deteriorating behaviour and difficult child 3 coming down with acold or some other bug. While he was really ill his behaviour would be perfect. But the few days before symptoms appeared, he would be horrible. I remember one Friday, it had been a bad week and he had incurred a number of behaviour black marks. He set off for school Friday morning determined to do better (as he had every day) but this time the teacher reported he had been as good as gold. He had a challenging day and seemed to cope well. They had a break in routine (which used to upset him, usually) and he took it in his stride. He came in the door fairly quietly, came to me abd sat beside me while I was watching TV. Then his head rested on my arm and I felt his skin - he was burning up! He had a fever of 39.7 C (103.4 F). Looking back through the notes in the book plus a later talk to the teacher, we think the fever developed at about midday. He must have had a pounding headache but he never said anything or gave anyone the idea that there was anything wrong - to him, he didn't notice anything more than usual because his anxiety was usually ramped so high and while feverish, his body had too much to think about for the anxiety to get a look-in. so it balanced out for him. And the changes in his body as the illness developed, had stopped changing. The fever was in, there was no more change. It was there. So sharing info and ideas can sometimes help give a perspective shift that can make our lives easier. I'm a long way away, I could be way short of the mark. But I've lived with this in various forms three times over, so I may have some ideas which could help. By sharing and comparing (as we do on this site) we have a better chance of pinpointing some likely avenues to investigate. Marg [/QUOTE]
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