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Contact with homeless son. Wants to visit and stay for couple of nights.
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 622124" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Just to let you know that we (me and H) have had a long chat and decided what to do about my son wanting to be picked up and come and stay for a couple of days. –</p><p></p><p></p><p>My husband has a long-standing work commitment which means being away overnight, so he has arranged this for one day in early April. I’m going to pick my son up the day before he goes so that we will have one night with my husband there and then another night with my husband away. Our youngest daughter will be in school during the day and she says that she wants to see her brother in the evenings so doesn’t want to go away with her dad while he’s here. It seems like a compromise on terms decided by US not him. I’m going to take a few days away from work. Son and I will have 3 days on our own, including the time spent travelling back and fore. I sometimes find that we talk more in the car with me concentrating on driving and not getting stressed by taking too much notice of what he says. </p><p></p><p></p><p>My husband’s thinking is that, if my son is a nightmare on the first day, then he can be there to take him back to the squat with me. If he’s ok on the first day, then hopefully he’ll be ok on the second day when my husband’s away. (A bit of wishful thinking I know!) My son will be back at the squat by the time my husband gets home.</p><p></p><p></p><p>The visit is conditional on him going straight in the shower when he gets here and using deodorant and clean clothes. I’ve bought some cheap basic stuff for him to wear, which he won’t like, but ‘beggars can’t be choosers’ quite literally in my son’s case. It's also conditional on him being absolutely clear about when I'm taking him back. We'll have to leave early so that I can ensure that I'm back in time for school finishing. I'm not hanging around at the squat and don't want to have to see how he's living or the people he's living with. </p><p></p><p></p><p>My daughter will only be here with him for one evening without her dad here, and I’ll plan to go out with them both, maybe to the beach, and hope that they can have a bit of fun together or at least that he’ll behave and not get mega-moody and suck up all the energy in the vicinity like he normally does. I'll see if one or more of the other kids can come with us.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I just have to relay all this to my son now somehow. His cell phone’s off and there’s no other way to contact him.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I’ll be a bit anxious for the next 3 weeks now, until this experiment in having a son to stay for 2 nights is over. I wish life was more normal, what ever 'normal’ is. I didn’t sleep much last night, but, as I was wandering around downstairs I realised that one of the main emotions that I have with all this now is utter boredom with it all. That’s new! A side-effect of detachment?</p><p></p><p></p><p>I’ll let you know what happens.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 622124, member: 17650"] Just to let you know that we (me and H) have had a long chat and decided what to do about my son wanting to be picked up and come and stay for a couple of days. – My husband has a long-standing work commitment which means being away overnight, so he has arranged this for one day in early April. I’m going to pick my son up the day before he goes so that we will have one night with my husband there and then another night with my husband away. Our youngest daughter will be in school during the day and she says that she wants to see her brother in the evenings so doesn’t want to go away with her dad while he’s here. It seems like a compromise on terms decided by US not him. I’m going to take a few days away from work. Son and I will have 3 days on our own, including the time spent travelling back and fore. I sometimes find that we talk more in the car with me concentrating on driving and not getting stressed by taking too much notice of what he says. My husband’s thinking is that, if my son is a nightmare on the first day, then he can be there to take him back to the squat with me. If he’s ok on the first day, then hopefully he’ll be ok on the second day when my husband’s away. (A bit of wishful thinking I know!) My son will be back at the squat by the time my husband gets home. The visit is conditional on him going straight in the shower when he gets here and using deodorant and clean clothes. I’ve bought some cheap basic stuff for him to wear, which he won’t like, but ‘beggars can’t be choosers’ quite literally in my son’s case. It's also conditional on him being absolutely clear about when I'm taking him back. We'll have to leave early so that I can ensure that I'm back in time for school finishing. I'm not hanging around at the squat and don't want to have to see how he's living or the people he's living with. My daughter will only be here with him for one evening without her dad here, and I’ll plan to go out with them both, maybe to the beach, and hope that they can have a bit of fun together or at least that he’ll behave and not get mega-moody and suck up all the energy in the vicinity like he normally does. I'll see if one or more of the other kids can come with us. I just have to relay all this to my son now somehow. His cell phone’s off and there’s no other way to contact him. I’ll be a bit anxious for the next 3 weeks now, until this experiment in having a son to stay for 2 nights is over. I wish life was more normal, what ever 'normal’ is. I didn’t sleep much last night, but, as I was wandering around downstairs I realised that one of the main emotions that I have with all this now is utter boredom with it all. That’s new! A side-effect of detachment? I’ll let you know what happens. [/QUOTE]
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