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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 765814" data-attributes="member: 4152">This is so true. We are having "issues" with our daughter's constant moving. Ironically, her biological mother constantly moves. I recall nicknaming the woman a "Nomad" (ironic, I know). Anyway, now our daughter does this and with each move, she loses much of her personal belongings, deposits, etc. It's happening again right now. My husband once joked (sort of) that she has moved 100 times. I thought that was a big exaggeration. Well, when I reflect back on it..it probably truly was 80-90 times and now it really is 100+.. IT's what she chooses to do. I can't seem to stop it...although I've tried. "It's what she chooses to do." Good point.I went to a  meeting or two "back in the day" as the kids say. OUr daughter is in her 30s and I would estimate she was a teenager when I went. There was a couple there with a son in his 50s who lived in their house. I will NEVER forget listening to them. Son had bipolar disorder and perhaps other mental illnesses as well . They felt practically trapped in their home. They rarely went out both together and when they did, it wasn't for long periods of time. They were afraid of him and every day their lives were mega stressed and awful. They appeared to be well in their seventies. I thought to myself "that will never happen to me." I also thought to myself, I hope he gets much better or at least leaves to give them some peace. I do believe God can work miracles, and this family needed one.DAD....regarding dwelling on your mistakes, I've done that a lot and fortunately, am doing it less and less as time goes on. I know I wasn't perfect...but nobody is.  I know in my heart I tried very hard to do the best I knew how to help our daughter and at times when things repeatedly failed, I would say to myself that I just haven't tried hard enough, or I just wasn't creative enough. I realize now that this was futile. A few things that are abundantly clear with our daughter is she is unwell. This is not my fault...never was, never can be, never will be. Additionally, something that I see repeatedly with our daughter and many here is this lack of appreciation. Sometimes I think if they simply appreciated the help they often get from their parents, perhaps they would put in a little more personal  effort. I don't think they appreciate it, sometimes resent it, are quick to feel entitled. I did meet a young alcoholic once who humbly told me (I think he was sincere, but with drug abuse, one never knows) that he felt not only was he going to need psychological help, but he felt he would need spiritual help as well with his addiction. It was very touching and I suspect very true. I felt much hope for him. All this is up to them...you can't do it for them.</blockquote>

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