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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 358185" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I totally agree with Step. You know people who have been through bad divorces. If they scalped a spouse in a divorce, ask their lawyer's name. If they GOT scalped, as their spouse's lawyer's name. If this lawyer will not use his knowledge and skill to do what YOU want and need, go to one of the lawyers that others recommend. Your kids NEED for you to win. So you have GOT to have a real piranha of an attorney, esp when you are battling an abusive shrew for custody. (Shrews are one of nature's most vicious animals - they eat their own weight in dead animals every day. Or so the report on them I did in childhood said.)</p><p></p><p>No more being nice to ex. No matter HOW nice she is. She has no where to stay? This is GOOD. It means she CANNOT have custody, no matter what, because the kids MUST have a home!!</p><p></p><p>Good for difficult child for telling the truth. </p><p></p><p>Not sure if your kids are both male, or both female, or one of each. FYI if they are of each sex they must have separate rooms in whatever place your ex lives in or she cannot have overnights. IN some places same sex children can share a bedroom with a parent. Children of the opposite sex must have an actual ROOM. They cannot sleep in a living room or other common room in many jurisdictions. I have several friends who have had to deal with this. In one case these rules were heaven-sent because my friends exh wanted the daus to live with-him in his one bedroom apt. with-o two bedrooms the court would not agree no matter what the kids want. </p><p>Make SURE that if she gets a place that it follows the rules (and there ARE established rules for places the kids can stay once you enter the court system). If she rents in an apartment complex you can probably just go to the landlord to get the layout of the apartments (some even have them printed up for potential renters) and to learn if unit X is 1 or 2 bedrooms.</p><p></p><p>Just info your atty may not share if he is getting lazy.</p><p></p><p>Time to practice saying that she cannot come in. Stand in front of the mirror and practice what you will say when she begs that she has no where to go. This will make it MUCH easier to tell her no and shut the door. Don't say why. Don't argue with her. Have a recorder handy so if she starts yelling you can record it. In fact, if you can start it to show you are polite (with-o her seeing it), this might be good so you can say you are NOT egging her on. But practice saying No with no explanation and shutting the door. Do NOT let her in. </p><p></p><p>Hoping things go well in court and she ends up showing the court her true colors.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 358185, member: 1233"] I totally agree with Step. You know people who have been through bad divorces. If they scalped a spouse in a divorce, ask their lawyer's name. If they GOT scalped, as their spouse's lawyer's name. If this lawyer will not use his knowledge and skill to do what YOU want and need, go to one of the lawyers that others recommend. Your kids NEED for you to win. So you have GOT to have a real piranha of an attorney, esp when you are battling an abusive shrew for custody. (Shrews are one of nature's most vicious animals - they eat their own weight in dead animals every day. Or so the report on them I did in childhood said.) No more being nice to ex. No matter HOW nice she is. She has no where to stay? This is GOOD. It means she CANNOT have custody, no matter what, because the kids MUST have a home!! Good for difficult child for telling the truth. Not sure if your kids are both male, or both female, or one of each. FYI if they are of each sex they must have separate rooms in whatever place your ex lives in or she cannot have overnights. IN some places same sex children can share a bedroom with a parent. Children of the opposite sex must have an actual ROOM. They cannot sleep in a living room or other common room in many jurisdictions. I have several friends who have had to deal with this. In one case these rules were heaven-sent because my friends exh wanted the daus to live with-him in his one bedroom apt. with-o two bedrooms the court would not agree no matter what the kids want. Make SURE that if she gets a place that it follows the rules (and there ARE established rules for places the kids can stay once you enter the court system). If she rents in an apartment complex you can probably just go to the landlord to get the layout of the apartments (some even have them printed up for potential renters) and to learn if unit X is 1 or 2 bedrooms. Just info your atty may not share if he is getting lazy. Time to practice saying that she cannot come in. Stand in front of the mirror and practice what you will say when she begs that she has no where to go. This will make it MUCH easier to tell her no and shut the door. Don't say why. Don't argue with her. Have a recorder handy so if she starts yelling you can record it. In fact, if you can start it to show you are polite (with-o her seeing it), this might be good so you can say you are NOT egging her on. But practice saying No with no explanation and shutting the door. Do NOT let her in. Hoping things go well in court and she ends up showing the court her true colors. [/QUOTE]
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