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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 741732" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The Judge said rightfully that the two of them can not be at peace without a parental coordinator. A parental coordinator is a guardian with the ability to make legal decisions. The last one they had ruled almost always in favor of Barts ex and Bart doesnt want to be under the legal eye anymore... plus its pricey. My ex husband has the money to pay for him but is getting frail and sick and is cranky and forever threatens to pull his monetary help.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, Bart can say he csnt afford the Parental Coordinator. I dont know what happens if you wont pay but he could try saying he cant. Also Bart has a little secret...he makes six figures. Now it is eaten up because of child support and the bills for his son, but he also wants and loves expensive toys, especially electronics. For himself and his son who has everything materially.</p><p>.</p><p>Although he wouldnt be able to buy expensive toys if he paid for the parental coordinators himself, he could bite a very hard bullet and do it. But the idea of living a poor man's life is almost as repulsive to him as not having J. As much as he wants him (although he lost no time with his son in this ruling.)</p><p></p><p>But he may not have a choice and he cant accept not having a choice. He so far can not acceept a parental coordinator .The old one traumatized him.</p><p></p><p>Everything scares him. He has extreme social anxiety and people with titles scare him. He wont get help.</p><p></p><p>If this were me, in this bad spot, I would so have reached out to others for advice, guidance snd support. And I do accept what is. So it is hard for me to not encourage him to do what worked for me.</p><p></p><p>He does nothing to even try to see if reaching out works.</p><p></p><p>He also expects me to give up my time with Hub, Jumper, Princess and Sonic to spend HOURS on the phone with him. Why? Because he is going through the worst thing ever except cancer and I need to give him more time because of that.</p><p></p><p>I wont do that. My other kids are not only equally important but fun and my husband is very important! If Jumper or Sonic is over, they get my time.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is karma. My Mom hated me and thought I was a big problem to her. Maybe I was worse than my memories. I do believe in karma.</p><p></p><p>But then why am I blessed with five angels...hub, other kids, granddaughter....it is very confusing. Bart is a lesson the Universe wants me to learn...uncondituonal love. How NOT to be my mom with a kid who is honestly a gazillion times more difficult than i was....and I was never mean to him like Mother was to me. So I guess its different...but still a lesson.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, karma aside, Bart is getting plenty from me and I do have a busy life aside from him. I push myself to have a busy, fun life. He can do the same maybe with counseling. I hope one day....</p><p></p><p>Love to the Universe and God and archangels!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 741732, member: 1550"] The Judge said rightfully that the two of them can not be at peace without a parental coordinator. A parental coordinator is a guardian with the ability to make legal decisions. The last one they had ruled almost always in favor of Barts ex and Bart doesnt want to be under the legal eye anymore... plus its pricey. My ex husband has the money to pay for him but is getting frail and sick and is cranky and forever threatens to pull his monetary help. The thing is, Bart can say he csnt afford the Parental Coordinator. I dont know what happens if you wont pay but he could try saying he cant. Also Bart has a little secret...he makes six figures. Now it is eaten up because of child support and the bills for his son, but he also wants and loves expensive toys, especially electronics. For himself and his son who has everything materially. . Although he wouldnt be able to buy expensive toys if he paid for the parental coordinators himself, he could bite a very hard bullet and do it. But the idea of living a poor man's life is almost as repulsive to him as not having J. As much as he wants him (although he lost no time with his son in this ruling.) But he may not have a choice and he cant accept not having a choice. He so far can not acceept a parental coordinator .The old one traumatized him. Everything scares him. He has extreme social anxiety and people with titles scare him. He wont get help. If this were me, in this bad spot, I would so have reached out to others for advice, guidance snd support. And I do accept what is. So it is hard for me to not encourage him to do what worked for me. He does nothing to even try to see if reaching out works. He also expects me to give up my time with Hub, Jumper, Princess and Sonic to spend HOURS on the phone with him. Why? Because he is going through the worst thing ever except cancer and I need to give him more time because of that. I wont do that. My other kids are not only equally important but fun and my husband is very important! If Jumper or Sonic is over, they get my time. Maybe this is karma. My Mom hated me and thought I was a big problem to her. Maybe I was worse than my memories. I do believe in karma. But then why am I blessed with five angels...hub, other kids, granddaughter....it is very confusing. Bart is a lesson the Universe wants me to learn...uncondituonal love. How NOT to be my mom with a kid who is honestly a gazillion times more difficult than i was....and I was never mean to him like Mother was to me. So I guess its different...but still a lesson. At any rate, karma aside, Bart is getting plenty from me and I do have a busy life aside from him. I push myself to have a busy, fun life. He can do the same maybe with counseling. I hope one day.... Love to the Universe and God and archangels! [/QUOTE]
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