Janet,
I read yesterday but didn't have time to post and wanted to get back to you.
You know, I totally agree with you on the "unless you are a stone" issue. I have never really understood how detachment works with your child other than knowing you are not responsible for their actions. I guess I could say don't worry, but that would be contrary to your personality.
In regards to the fines and his future, by law they can only deduct a certain percentage from his actual take home pay - naturally it is to insure you can live on the remainder. So, he will probably be paying for years and years. I take money out of several of my employee's pay and they still retain a good amount when I take the maximum allowed by law.
As far as your sweet grandson goes, I would ask what Ant thinks about your stance on Kaleb not visiting, but I believe Ant has pretty much screwed up his parental decision making rights. You do what you feel is best for that little boy.
Enjoy your plowing and harvesting!!!!!! Your in my thoughts and prayers.
Sharon
