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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 746088" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I can fully understand his lie and how crafty he was to get it through. That doesn't mean he doesn't need to feel the consequences of his actions. Why not make him get a job part time to pay for the extra expenses? If nothing else, he could go do a paper route or mow lawns and shovel sidewalks or whatever. It is a logical consequence for his actions. </p><p></p><p>He pretended to be 18, and 18 year olds have expenses to cover. Let him see what he thinks of that. Especially if it cuts into some luxury item that he won't be able to pay for when he wants it. </p><p></p><p>If he cannot figure out a job, cut some service that he uses (netflix, buying energy drinks or sodas, or whatever) to set that money aside for his cat's expenses. Sure, he probably cannot cover ALL of the expenses, but he will feel the pinch a bit. </p><p></p><p>I personally would make him go and apologize to the person he conned and whomever else is in the shelter. Just another way of making him take responsibility. </p><p></p><p>Is he maybe showing you he isn't responsible enough to handle volunteering at the shelter? That it hurts his heart too much? My oldest quit volunteering at a shelter because it hurt his heart to see all of the cats and dogs in jail. His words, not mine. Could your son have been looking for a way to get away from this pain without coming out and saying it? </p><p></p><p>Our local animal shelter demands a parent be on the premises with anyone under 18 who volunteers there. They had this happen quite frequently until this rule was put into place. It really cut down on the number of animals who were returned because the parents never agreed to the adoption. If you look young (under 25), you have to show ID to adopt a cat for the same reason.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 746088, member: 1233"] I can fully understand his lie and how crafty he was to get it through. That doesn't mean he doesn't need to feel the consequences of his actions. Why not make him get a job part time to pay for the extra expenses? If nothing else, he could go do a paper route or mow lawns and shovel sidewalks or whatever. It is a logical consequence for his actions. He pretended to be 18, and 18 year olds have expenses to cover. Let him see what he thinks of that. Especially if it cuts into some luxury item that he won't be able to pay for when he wants it. If he cannot figure out a job, cut some service that he uses (netflix, buying energy drinks or sodas, or whatever) to set that money aside for his cat's expenses. Sure, he probably cannot cover ALL of the expenses, but he will feel the pinch a bit. I personally would make him go and apologize to the person he conned and whomever else is in the shelter. Just another way of making him take responsibility. Is he maybe showing you he isn't responsible enough to handle volunteering at the shelter? That it hurts his heart too much? My oldest quit volunteering at a shelter because it hurt his heart to see all of the cats and dogs in jail. His words, not mine. Could your son have been looking for a way to get away from this pain without coming out and saying it? Our local animal shelter demands a parent be on the premises with anyone under 18 who volunteers there. They had this happen quite frequently until this rule was put into place. It really cut down on the number of animals who were returned because the parents never agreed to the adoption. If you look young (under 25), you have to show ID to adopt a cat for the same reason. [/QUOTE]
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