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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 758082" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Oh newstart</p><p></p><p>Sigh, she lives very differently than you and I do. I have friends who live very differently than I do. There have been times I've become, well codependent, trying to "help" them straighten things out. To try, in my eyes, to make things better for them, cleaning up messes, pushing for maintenance, so on. I get that it's a different situation with people who are not offspring, but then maybe not so different. Is she a bad person because she does not seem to care about her physical surroundings? Is she a bad person because she does not concern herself with maintenance and upkeep? Is she a bad person because she doesn't consider the neighbors right next to her? I've been, with these friends of mine, thinking what will people think? How much trouble are they going to get into with this mess? I've also been, with these same friends of mine, thinking, oh man this is going to be more expensive than they can handle to fix if they don't get ahead of it. For years of this stuff I've worried for them. But someone else has told me through all of this time, years, they will be fine, they are fine, fine for them and so far that has been true. I think the reality of it is, yes she is a filthy pig, by yours and my standards, and others standards, as are my friends. But I know my friends are good people regardless. I know my friends hide the complaints against them as much as they can, and do what they have to do when pushed by authorities. I know they pay more to repair rather than upkeep when things go tits up and it affects them more financially. But I know regardless they are good people, just people who do not fit in, in this particular way. </p><p></p><p></p><p>This seems to say to me that she cares what you think and feel very much, probably is more than she can handle. I know she is living in a community where a standard of living is required and is a place you feel more secure for her. Maybe it's not a neighborhood she, on her own, can keep up with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 758082, member: 22840"] Oh newstart Sigh, she lives very differently than you and I do. I have friends who live very differently than I do. There have been times I've become, well codependent, trying to "help" them straighten things out. To try, in my eyes, to make things better for them, cleaning up messes, pushing for maintenance, so on. I get that it's a different situation with people who are not offspring, but then maybe not so different. Is she a bad person because she does not seem to care about her physical surroundings? Is she a bad person because she does not concern herself with maintenance and upkeep? Is she a bad person because she doesn't consider the neighbors right next to her? I've been, with these friends of mine, thinking what will people think? How much trouble are they going to get into with this mess? I've also been, with these same friends of mine, thinking, oh man this is going to be more expensive than they can handle to fix if they don't get ahead of it. For years of this stuff I've worried for them. But someone else has told me through all of this time, years, they will be fine, they are fine, fine for them and so far that has been true. I think the reality of it is, yes she is a filthy pig, by yours and my standards, and others standards, as are my friends. But I know my friends are good people regardless. I know my friends hide the complaints against them as much as they can, and do what they have to do when pushed by authorities. I know they pay more to repair rather than upkeep when things go tits up and it affects them more financially. But I know regardless they are good people, just people who do not fit in, in this particular way. This seems to say to me that she cares what you think and feel very much, probably is more than she can handle. I know she is living in a community where a standard of living is required and is a place you feel more secure for her. Maybe it's not a neighborhood she, on her own, can keep up with. [/QUOTE]
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