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<blockquote data-quote="Tired out" data-source="post: 741102" data-attributes="member: 23103"><p>I think things come across wrong in text. I am not saying that you are wrong, not in the least. However I am saying that you can't control the situation when your mom is living with your daughter. Personally, if it was me. I would be glad daughter decided to have grandma live with her, or maybe not..your mom sounds a bit difficult and it is probably stressing your daughter out and she doesn't want to admit it. With the family dynamic and your mom's personality a retirement residence may have been a better choice. </p><p>I have a big fancy house and a handicapped son. the fancy house doesn't make it easier. It is the time it takes more than the money.</p><p>My son will be my responsibility as long as I am able. When I am no longer able we will need an alternative. His sister says it will be her and her hubby, she doesn't really understand at this point what she would be letting herself in for. No one really "gets it" until they have to be the care provider. I don't want to stress her marriage with the situation and I don't want my son in a "home" ..it is scary.My difficult child used to be the one that always helped with disabled son. </p><p>I hate that this stress is being caused between your daughter and you. do you think it is dues to your mom or just the whole situation? </p><p>I wish you luck, and peace. Don't shorten your own life with stress. Maybe if you try to approach it in a more light hearted manner and just say what you want to do with mom. </p><p>Again, good luck. Truly I wasn't trying to put you down in any way. I just know how people tried to second guess my sister-in-laws handling of my father-in-law and they were between a rock and a hard place. basically getting old sucks. and you are younger than I am.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired out, post: 741102, member: 23103"] I think things come across wrong in text. I am not saying that you are wrong, not in the least. However I am saying that you can't control the situation when your mom is living with your daughter. Personally, if it was me. I would be glad daughter decided to have grandma live with her, or maybe not..your mom sounds a bit difficult and it is probably stressing your daughter out and she doesn't want to admit it. With the family dynamic and your mom's personality a retirement residence may have been a better choice. I have a big fancy house and a handicapped son. the fancy house doesn't make it easier. It is the time it takes more than the money. My son will be my responsibility as long as I am able. When I am no longer able we will need an alternative. His sister says it will be her and her hubby, she doesn't really understand at this point what she would be letting herself in for. No one really "gets it" until they have to be the care provider. I don't want to stress her marriage with the situation and I don't want my son in a "home" ..it is scary.My difficult child used to be the one that always helped with disabled son. I hate that this stress is being caused between your daughter and you. do you think it is dues to your mom or just the whole situation? I wish you luck, and peace. Don't shorten your own life with stress. Maybe if you try to approach it in a more light hearted manner and just say what you want to do with mom. Again, good luck. Truly I wasn't trying to put you down in any way. I just know how people tried to second guess my sister-in-laws handling of my father-in-law and they were between a rock and a hard place. basically getting old sucks. and you are younger than I am. [/QUOTE]
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