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Cutting off family & trying to quiet my brain
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 754400" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I am so sorry that all this is happening in your family. I think there is another option besides total cut off and being in the drama.</p><p></p><p>I personally love my parents so much that if I were in the difficult position you are in, I think I would definitely skip anywhere my brother went (drama). But if my mother wanted to meet me for lunch sometimes and promised not to talk about Brother, I would do it. I would feel terrible cutting her off, knowing how that would hurt her, because she made decisions I didn't like. </p><p></p><p>You could do this too if it suits you. There are many options. Doesn't have to be all or nothing. There are gray areas.</p><p></p><p>Brother I would tell that as long as he isn't sober I did not want him in my life. But that's me. You can do gray areas with him too if it bothers you to cut him off completely. You can tell him you will only see him in a public place and if you smell alcohol on him you will leave right away. That is just an example. It's a mess, isn't it? </p><p></p><p>I hope you can find peace this Christmas season and my heart hurts for you. Be well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 754400, member: 23706"] I am so sorry that all this is happening in your family. I think there is another option besides total cut off and being in the drama. I personally love my parents so much that if I were in the difficult position you are in, I think I would definitely skip anywhere my brother went (drama). But if my mother wanted to meet me for lunch sometimes and promised not to talk about Brother, I would do it. I would feel terrible cutting her off, knowing how that would hurt her, because she made decisions I didn't like. You could do this too if it suits you. There are many options. Doesn't have to be all or nothing. There are gray areas. Brother I would tell that as long as he isn't sober I did not want him in my life. But that's me. You can do gray areas with him too if it bothers you to cut him off completely. You can tell him you will only see him in a public place and if you smell alcohol on him you will leave right away. That is just an example. It's a mess, isn't it? I hope you can find peace this Christmas season and my heart hurts for you. Be well. [/QUOTE]
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