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Daughter 24 stole from me
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 680341" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I would let your daughters work it out themselves. They are both adults, are they not? Sister has a right to be upset, not only did her money go missing but she was suspected for the theft as her sister remained silent. </p><p>I think the advice was to have an attorney assist in the agreement to pay back the money, not involve police. </p><p>It is your decision no matter what. The response you receive here is opinions of caring folks who have been through similar circumstances. The ultimate decision is up to you and your husband. </p><p>I would not worry so much about your daughters relationship with her sister as much as how to move forward with recompense made for the theft.</p><p></p><p> I think your daughters actions from here on out to make restitution to you and your family will bear much on her sisters willingness to have a relationship.</p><p> As parents, we can learn from these kids who will create healthy boundaries and draw the line in the sand, <em>we are hesitant to</em>. </p><p>It was my 14 year old son who pointed out to me "Mom, why do we have anyone living with us who steals, we have to lock our stuff up from them?" </p><p>He was referring to his sisters. He was correct. </p><p>Both he and his two sisters have minimal, if any contact with my two d cs, feeling they need to show by their actions they have changed. They do not trust them, and are distressed at their choices. I don't try to sway them in any way.</p><p>Time heals all wounds. If your daughters were close, they may be able to be close again. </p><p>I think that these kids have a moral code when it comes to family. If their siblings cross the line, they are rightfully upset. </p><p>I was able to learn much from my son about drawing the line. What he said, really made me think about stuff I had put up with. He was right.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry for the strain of this. Keep posting, it is good to get others perspective and opinions.</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 680341, member: 19522"] I would let your daughters work it out themselves. They are both adults, are they not? Sister has a right to be upset, not only did her money go missing but she was suspected for the theft as her sister remained silent. I think the advice was to have an attorney assist in the agreement to pay back the money, not involve police. It is your decision no matter what. The response you receive here is opinions of caring folks who have been through similar circumstances. The ultimate decision is up to you and your husband. I would not worry so much about your daughters relationship with her sister as much as how to move forward with recompense made for the theft. I think your daughters actions from here on out to make restitution to you and your family will bear much on her sisters willingness to have a relationship. As parents, we can learn from these kids who will create healthy boundaries and draw the line in the sand, [I]we are hesitant to[/I]. It was my 14 year old son who pointed out to me "Mom, why do we have anyone living with us who steals, we have to lock our stuff up from them?" He was referring to his sisters. He was correct. Both he and his two sisters have minimal, if any contact with my two d cs, feeling they need to show by their actions they have changed. They do not trust them, and are distressed at their choices. I don't try to sway them in any way. Time heals all wounds. If your daughters were close, they may be able to be close again. I think that these kids have a moral code when it comes to family. If their siblings cross the line, they are rightfully upset. I was able to learn much from my son about drawing the line. What he said, really made me think about stuff I had put up with. He was right. I am sorry for the strain of this. Keep posting, it is good to get others perspective and opinions. (((Hugs))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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