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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 681441" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I do not think this will define her. She is already hard at work to recoup the money.</p><p></p><p>All of those years before and now she was and is a million different things beyond this. There must have been an empty space in her character from which she acted from, or as others have surmised an addiction of some sort took over. We do not know. But she will, if she wants, overcome this by trying to understand and to change, and to do what she must to build herself or better herself.</p><p></p><p>I remember many years ago something that happened to me. My grandfather died in 1983. The will left his estate in 3 parts to my mother, sister and I. My mother took all of the money, and said that my grandfather changed his mind.</p><p></p><p>It is in my mind because today I found copies of his will.</p><p></p><p>My mother dug in and insisted all of the estate was hers. I was very hurt. It was not about the money. It was about having a mother who put herself first, second and third. I was about to enter graduate school. I asked my mother if she would help me at all (with my money.) She as if said no. It would be many years before I would forgive her or speak with her. I never forgot.</p><p></p><p>Because there is a difference between what happened with your daughter and that which happened with my mother. With your daughter, I believe this is an aberration. I think you do too.</p><p></p><p>With my mother it was the main event. The reason it hurt so bad is that I was forced to face this was my mother. She chose to define herself by this act. The money was more important than her daughters. She preferred to pay the price and lose us, rather than do the right thing.</p><p></p><p>She could never say she was sorry, although I know she felt bad. But I cannot say she regretted it. I believe she would have done it over and over again if she had a chance.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter will not ever do such a thing again. I believe that.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 681441, member: 18958"] I do not think this will define her. She is already hard at work to recoup the money. All of those years before and now she was and is a million different things beyond this. There must have been an empty space in her character from which she acted from, or as others have surmised an addiction of some sort took over. We do not know. But she will, if she wants, overcome this by trying to understand and to change, and to do what she must to build herself or better herself. I remember many years ago something that happened to me. My grandfather died in 1983. The will left his estate in 3 parts to my mother, sister and I. My mother took all of the money, and said that my grandfather changed his mind. It is in my mind because today I found copies of his will. My mother dug in and insisted all of the estate was hers. I was very hurt. It was not about the money. It was about having a mother who put herself first, second and third. I was about to enter graduate school. I asked my mother if she would help me at all (with my money.) She as if said no. It would be many years before I would forgive her or speak with her. I never forgot. Because there is a difference between what happened with your daughter and that which happened with my mother. With your daughter, I believe this is an aberration. I think you do too. With my mother it was the main event. The reason it hurt so bad is that I was forced to face this was my mother. She chose to define herself by this act. The money was more important than her daughters. She preferred to pay the price and lose us, rather than do the right thing. She could never say she was sorry, although I know she felt bad. But I cannot say she regretted it. I believe she would have done it over and over again if she had a chance. Your daughter will not ever do such a thing again. I believe that. COPA [/QUOTE]
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