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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 683907" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree one hundred percent. I think there is a natural progression of things. It takes time. To have the expectation of yourself too early is both unfair to yourself, and not helpful.</p><p></p><p>The anger will fade. I am sure of it. You love your daughter.</p><p></p><p>I do not think it would be the right thing <em>for her </em>to prematurely set aside anger that you righteously feel. Even if she did this thing as part of a mental illness, she is responsible nonetheless. Society would hold her responsible. You chose to not press charges. I cannot think that any other person other than a parent, would not have pressed charges.</p><p></p><p>Are you not entitled for now to feel anger? Of course you are.</p><p></p><p>There are people with bipolar illness that choose not to take their medicine to control the mania because they like the way it feels. It feels good to them. They <em>choose</em> to not be medication compliant.</p><p></p><p>While your daughter will do what she wants to do, and what you do or do not do, in the main is not the the controlling factor. I would think that she is best served by your not normalizing this. By that I mean, to act as if it was something that you can and should get over just like that. Because she needs to take this seriously. She could have been on her way to prison.</p><p></p><p>She committed a crime. This is serious. Again, this is just my take but I think you are asking something that is both extremely difficult, and actually, borderline irresponsible if you ask yourself to not be angry at her.</p><p></p><p>This just happened. It is not, like, one year. You will work this through. Do not be hard on yourself. Remember. You did not do this thing. You were the victim. In one fell swoop life as you knew it was overturned--and you lost a great deal of money. And your daughter was responsible. Allow yourself to grieve.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 683907, member: 18958"] I agree one hundred percent. I think there is a natural progression of things. It takes time. To have the expectation of yourself too early is both unfair to yourself, and not helpful. The anger will fade. I am sure of it. You love your daughter. I do not think it would be the right thing [I]for her [/I]to prematurely set aside anger that you righteously feel. Even if she did this thing as part of a mental illness, she is responsible nonetheless. Society would hold her responsible. You chose to not press charges. I cannot think that any other person other than a parent, would not have pressed charges. Are you not entitled for now to feel anger? Of course you are. There are people with bipolar illness that choose not to take their medicine to control the mania because they like the way it feels. It feels good to them. They [I]choose[/I] to not be medication compliant. While your daughter will do what she wants to do, and what you do or do not do, in the main is not the the controlling factor. I would think that she is best served by your not normalizing this. By that I mean, to act as if it was something that you can and should get over just like that. Because she needs to take this seriously. She could have been on her way to prison. She committed a crime. This is serious. Again, this is just my take but I think you are asking something that is both extremely difficult, and actually, borderline irresponsible if you ask yourself to not be angry at her. This just happened. It is not, like, one year. You will work this through. Do not be hard on yourself. Remember. You did not do this thing. You were the victim. In one fell swoop life as you knew it was overturned--and you lost a great deal of money. And your daughter was responsible. Allow yourself to grieve. [/QUOTE]
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