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Daughter "Back" With Abusive Ex... Demanding Child
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 752886" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi ChickPea,</p><p>CD is switching servers so I can’t see your postings to get the back story to refresh my memory.</p><p>I am so sorry for your troubles. God bless you for providing your grand baby with a safe and loving home. It is hard. I know. My three grands went through our “revolving” door for many years. My daughter had custody along with their abusive father. We had the kids through CPS some ten years ago, their parents fulfilled their required classes and the kids went back. They slipped between the cracks of an overburdened system for ten years, while their parents violence and drug use escalated.</p><p>Sounds like you have legal guardianship for your grandson. That’s extremely important. I agree with Copa under the circumstances that less contact is best for now, especially since your daughter is back with abusive ex and spiraling. My grands eventually became nothing more than cash cows for the food stamp money. I have them in my care now as teens and the affect of living crazy, unpredictable lives is a heavy burden for them. I grieve the lifestyle and choices of their mother, but my focus is on them, they are children and their parents are adults who will do as they please.</p><p>I pray that you will find peace and that your grandsons parents will recognize that the love and stability you are providing him is the best thing. It’s not to say that your daughter cannot and will not change, but until she does, that precious child deserves a chance at a normal life.</p><p>I have had to study a lot on healing for traumatized children, the inhibited brain growth and developmental delays caused by living in fear and constant high alert for the next episode. I wish that I could have hung on to my grands 10 years ago. Hopefully your daughter will have enough love and empathy for her son to see that you are giving him a chance to grow in a peaceful environment. Hang in there and know you did the right thing saying no.</p><p>Prayers going up and </p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 752886, member: 19522"] Hi ChickPea, CD is switching servers so I can’t see your postings to get the back story to refresh my memory. I am so sorry for your troubles. God bless you for providing your grand baby with a safe and loving home. It is hard. I know. My three grands went through our “revolving” door for many years. My daughter had custody along with their abusive father. We had the kids through CPS some ten years ago, their parents fulfilled their required classes and the kids went back. They slipped between the cracks of an overburdened system for ten years, while their parents violence and drug use escalated. Sounds like you have legal guardianship for your grandson. That’s extremely important. I agree with Copa under the circumstances that less contact is best for now, especially since your daughter is back with abusive ex and spiraling. My grands eventually became nothing more than cash cows for the food stamp money. I have them in my care now as teens and the affect of living crazy, unpredictable lives is a heavy burden for them. I grieve the lifestyle and choices of their mother, but my focus is on them, they are children and their parents are adults who will do as they please. I pray that you will find peace and that your grandsons parents will recognize that the love and stability you are providing him is the best thing. It’s not to say that your daughter cannot and will not change, but until she does, that precious child deserves a chance at a normal life. I have had to study a lot on healing for traumatized children, the inhibited brain growth and developmental delays caused by living in fear and constant high alert for the next episode. I wish that I could have hung on to my grands 10 years ago. Hopefully your daughter will have enough love and empathy for her son to see that you are giving him a chance to grow in a peaceful environment. Hang in there and know you did the right thing saying no. Prayers going up and (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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