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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 424684"><p>"There could be many reasons she looked that up other than what you are jumping at right away. Maybe she is wondering what to watch out for when she is with this guy instead of planning on doing the actual stealing." </p><p></p><p>No offense, but I think that's exactly the sort of pollyanna thinking that gets a lot of parents of difficult children in trouble. My sister (mother of a difficult child) did this sort of thing for years and years, and still does it to some extent now: seizing upon extremely unlikely interpretations of fairly obvious hints & clues so that she wouldn't have to face the ugly truth. If a teenager is dating an unambiguous difficult child and evidently going the difficult child route herself as a result of that influence, and if the difficult child has already been caught stealing, and you find that your teenager is looking up "how to steal" webpages on the internet, guess what? She's planning on doing some stealing. Kidding yourself that it's something else, some highly unlikely other possibility, simply paves the way for the misconduct and reinforces the tendency in yourself to willfully ignore or dismiss the signs and clues and hints that you need to be aware of and responsive to if you're going to deal with a difficult child effectively.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 424684"] "There could be many reasons she looked that up other than what you are jumping at right away. Maybe she is wondering what to watch out for when she is with this guy instead of planning on doing the actual stealing." No offense, but I think that's exactly the sort of pollyanna thinking that gets a lot of parents of difficult children in trouble. My sister (mother of a difficult child) did this sort of thing for years and years, and still does it to some extent now: seizing upon extremely unlikely interpretations of fairly obvious hints & clues so that she wouldn't have to face the ugly truth. If a teenager is dating an unambiguous difficult child and evidently going the difficult child route herself as a result of that influence, and if the difficult child has already been caught stealing, and you find that your teenager is looking up "how to steal" webpages on the internet, guess what? She's planning on doing some stealing. Kidding yourself that it's something else, some highly unlikely other possibility, simply paves the way for the misconduct and reinforces the tendency in yourself to willfully ignore or dismiss the signs and clues and hints that you need to be aware of and responsive to if you're going to deal with a difficult child effectively. [/QUOTE]
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