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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 425100" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Dear ski, </p><p>I will try to make this brief as I am typing with one finger on my iPhone lol.</p><p>I wanted to thank you first for your consideration of how I am now. </p><p></p><p>To be honest I think there will always be a hole in my heart because of the lack of love pain depravation from my bio dad. He died this past November and I was asked by a half sister he raised if I would visit him in the hospital a month before he passes away. I did...and the only thing I asked of him was to write me a letter...I never received a card or letter from him my whole life. So a month later at his funeral I was still left "wanting" as o received no letter. </p><p></p><p>What did leave me? Hm...bipolar disorder and the disease of alcoholism...thanks dad, sigh. But I suppose there are gifts that come out of tragedy too. I found AA for myself also Al Anon as both my sons are addicts. I had a psychotic breakdown 4 yrs ago and was finally dxd with bipolar disorder which explains many many years of depression that I suffered and for certain the loss of love from bio dad has been probably the single worst emotional pain aside from the grief I have experienced from my difficult children lives. </p><p></p><p>Most of my adult life I have had a special place in my heart for fatherless children and husband and I have taken into our home at least 3 of them in the past 5 yrs. I try and emphasize the Riches of heart that can come from so much pain and loss. I refer to them as survivor and try to steer them away from self pity and victimhood. </p><p></p><p>I so wish your daughter would agree to some counseling. I think I really could have benefitted from a female counselor who deals with loss of a parent when I was a teenager. </p><p></p><p>by the way my mom was 17 when she had me. Her parents had forbidden her from seeing my bio dad...but she only got good at sneaking around to see him. Marrying him not long after and having me 9 mtgs later. He was an abusive alcoholic and he beat my mom over the corse of 2 yrs. She divorced him at 19 yrs of age and I did not meet him or hear from him til age 17. </p><p>My mom has loved me through it all although my childhood was unstable with her as she moved 10 times by the time I was in the ninth grade and she worked full time and put herself through college as well. I spent alot of my childhood in different places and with many babysitters or alone. But all of my adult life she has been there for me when it mattered most. Took me a long time to appreciate how much my mother has always loved me. </p><p></p><p>I will always be reminded of bio dad too because my young difficult child is the spitting image of him... Geez! </p><p></p><p>Anyway I so hope your daughter will get the therapy she really needs one of these days soon. </p><p>Thinking of you...and thank you for thinking of me too.</p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Tammy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 425100, member: 3305"] Dear ski, I will try to make this brief as I am typing with one finger on my iPhone lol. I wanted to thank you first for your consideration of how I am now. To be honest I think there will always be a hole in my heart because of the lack of love pain depravation from my bio dad. He died this past November and I was asked by a half sister he raised if I would visit him in the hospital a month before he passes away. I did...and the only thing I asked of him was to write me a letter...I never received a card or letter from him my whole life. So a month later at his funeral I was still left "wanting" as o received no letter. What did leave me? Hm...bipolar disorder and the disease of alcoholism...thanks dad, sigh. But I suppose there are gifts that come out of tragedy too. I found AA for myself also Al Anon as both my sons are addicts. I had a psychotic breakdown 4 yrs ago and was finally dxd with bipolar disorder which explains many many years of depression that I suffered and for certain the loss of love from bio dad has been probably the single worst emotional pain aside from the grief I have experienced from my difficult children lives. Most of my adult life I have had a special place in my heart for fatherless children and husband and I have taken into our home at least 3 of them in the past 5 yrs. I try and emphasize the Riches of heart that can come from so much pain and loss. I refer to them as survivor and try to steer them away from self pity and victimhood. I so wish your daughter would agree to some counseling. I think I really could have benefitted from a female counselor who deals with loss of a parent when I was a teenager. by the way my mom was 17 when she had me. Her parents had forbidden her from seeing my bio dad...but she only got good at sneaking around to see him. Marrying him not long after and having me 9 mtgs later. He was an abusive alcoholic and he beat my mom over the corse of 2 yrs. She divorced him at 19 yrs of age and I did not meet him or hear from him til age 17. My mom has loved me through it all although my childhood was unstable with her as she moved 10 times by the time I was in the ninth grade and she worked full time and put herself through college as well. I spent alot of my childhood in different places and with many babysitters or alone. But all of my adult life she has been there for me when it mattered most. Took me a long time to appreciate how much my mother has always loved me. I will always be reminded of bio dad too because my young difficult child is the spitting image of him... Geez! Anyway I so hope your daughter will get the therapy she really needs one of these days soon. Thinking of you...and thank you for thinking of me too. Hugs, Tammy [/QUOTE]
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