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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 630767" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Welcome, Dazed.</p><p></p><p>We are a safe, supportive, often very wise group of parents. (Mostly moms, but there are some dads.) I am happy that you found us. To what others of us have already posted, I would add that an addicted child is among the most painful things that could happen to a parent. We love them so much, and would do anything to help...but nothing we do helps them. As COM posted to you Dazed, your daughter is behaving as she is ~ stealing, lying to you ~ because of the addiction. This has nothing to do with you or with how you raised her. There is nothing, to my knowledge, you can do to help her.</p><p></p><p>Another parent posted here once that he had been able to let go of judging either himself or his child, and that helped him to bear what he needed to bear as his child began to self destruct. I have a really hard time with that, but whenever I can manage to stop judging the kids <em>or myself</em> I feel stronger.</p><p></p><p>They say there is a genetic component to addiction, and that some of us are hooked from the first dose. </p><p></p><p>I am glad to hear that you are looking into such groups as AlAnon. Meeting other parents going through this kind of torture helps keep us sane.</p><p></p><p>It's all so unbelievable.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry this is happening to you, and to your child, Dazed.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 630767, member: 17461"] Welcome, Dazed. We are a safe, supportive, often very wise group of parents. (Mostly moms, but there are some dads.) I am happy that you found us. To what others of us have already posted, I would add that an addicted child is among the most painful things that could happen to a parent. We love them so much, and would do anything to help...but nothing we do helps them. As COM posted to you Dazed, your daughter is behaving as she is ~ stealing, lying to you ~ because of the addiction. This has nothing to do with you or with how you raised her. There is nothing, to my knowledge, you can do to help her. Another parent posted here once that he had been able to let go of judging either himself or his child, and that helped him to bear what he needed to bear as his child began to self destruct. I have a really hard time with that, but whenever I can manage to stop judging the kids [I]or myself[/I] I feel stronger. They say there is a genetic component to addiction, and that some of us are hooked from the first dose. I am glad to hear that you are looking into such groups as AlAnon. Meeting other parents going through this kind of torture helps keep us sane. It's all so unbelievable. I am sorry this is happening to you, and to your child, Dazed. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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