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*Deep breath* I think we have reached a tipping point
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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 733453" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>So glad you got a fast assessment from the neuropsychologist. You may wish to get a second opinion on a possible Axis I or Axis II psychiatric diagnosis from a child psychiatrist, if you can find one. They are both rare and extremely busy. But given your son's severe behavioral concerns, if he were mine, I would want a few different opinions if I could manage it.</p><p></p><p>Your son's lack of social awareness/social skills and immaturity make me suspicious that there may be an autism spectrum tendency hidden within him. You may want to follow up with the neuropsychologist on that. There's an assessment called the ADOS (autism diagnostic observation schedule) which is the gold standard for this diagnosis. It has to be administered over multiple days. If he does have a pinch of autism spectrum in his makeup, he may qualify for additional services and support both now and in the future, when he is an adult.</p><p></p><p>I am hopeful that your family will find the answers leading to a peaceful and harmonious home life, and that both of your children become their best selves in the process. Please remember though that if your son did inherit "criminal genes" from one or both of his biological parents, then NO AMOUNT of perfect parenting will fix him or make him give up his ways. He may be hard wired to do these things. At this point it is impossible to tell.</p><p></p><p>It will be so important for you, your husband and his sister to have this perspective. Nobody in your family made him the way he is. And conversely, nobody in your family has the power to change him. If he is compliant with prescribed medications and buys into a therapeutic program, and develops a desire to change, then he can change. My point though is that even at his young age, change comes from within.</p><p></p><p>I am really happy to see your family taking steps to protect yourselves, especially his sister, from his poor choices. I am also very happy that you are enforcing limits and consequences. So many of us never get there. My family - the one I married into, with my two stepsons- never did and the children's lives are now, if not ruined, certainly much more difficult than may have been the case otherwise. So many kudos to you. </p><p></p><p>Keep us posted!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 733453, member: 13303"] So glad you got a fast assessment from the neuropsychologist. You may wish to get a second opinion on a possible Axis I or Axis II psychiatric diagnosis from a child psychiatrist, if you can find one. They are both rare and extremely busy. But given your son's severe behavioral concerns, if he were mine, I would want a few different opinions if I could manage it. Your son's lack of social awareness/social skills and immaturity make me suspicious that there may be an autism spectrum tendency hidden within him. You may want to follow up with the neuropsychologist on that. There's an assessment called the ADOS (autism diagnostic observation schedule) which is the gold standard for this diagnosis. It has to be administered over multiple days. If he does have a pinch of autism spectrum in his makeup, he may qualify for additional services and support both now and in the future, when he is an adult. I am hopeful that your family will find the answers leading to a peaceful and harmonious home life, and that both of your children become their best selves in the process. Please remember though that if your son did inherit "criminal genes" from one or both of his biological parents, then NO AMOUNT of perfect parenting will fix him or make him give up his ways. He may be hard wired to do these things. At this point it is impossible to tell. It will be so important for you, your husband and his sister to have this perspective. Nobody in your family made him the way he is. And conversely, nobody in your family has the power to change him. If he is compliant with prescribed medications and buys into a therapeutic program, and develops a desire to change, then he can change. My point though is that even at his young age, change comes from within. I am really happy to see your family taking steps to protect yourselves, especially his sister, from his poor choices. I am also very happy that you are enforcing limits and consequences. So many of us never get there. My family - the one I married into, with my two stepsons- never did and the children's lives are now, if not ruined, certainly much more difficult than may have been the case otherwise. So many kudos to you. Keep us posted! [/QUOTE]
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