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Desperate Mom needing advise with adult daughter of 22 with Borderline (Borderline (BPD))
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 750120" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Anyone read that book I talked about regarding acceptance? I really think that acceptance is what lots of us, myself included, fight the most. The book is my second Bible. I slip it in my purse to read when there is something I can not accept, that I think I have to change or can change. </p><p></p><p>The book reminds me that I can't change things I don't like, including Kay. That she is what she is for now and I radically accept her. This doesn't mean I like it. It just alleviates my own suffering to accept in this moment that this is reality (I accept without judging as this part is imortant). If I try to twist reality in my mind and make useless gestures to change what is, I just hurt me. And reality remains reality. So then I devestate me, not anything or anyone else.</p><p></p><p>The book is something my husband and I work on together as well as absorbing the good lessons of Al Anon. In the end we can only change our reaction to reality, not reality itself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 750120, member: 23706"] Anyone read that book I talked about regarding acceptance? I really think that acceptance is what lots of us, myself included, fight the most. The book is my second Bible. I slip it in my purse to read when there is something I can not accept, that I think I have to change or can change. The book reminds me that I can't change things I don't like, including Kay. That she is what she is for now and I radically accept her. This doesn't mean I like it. It just alleviates my own suffering to accept in this moment that this is reality (I accept without judging as this part is imortant). If I try to twist reality in my mind and make useless gestures to change what is, I just hurt me. And reality remains reality. So then I devestate me, not anything or anyone else. The book is something my husband and I work on together as well as absorbing the good lessons of Al Anon. In the end we can only change our reaction to reality, not reality itself. [/QUOTE]
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