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<blockquote data-quote="mom58" data-source="post: 763724" data-attributes="member: 23925"><p>Hi Hurting mom, omg does your story sound familiar to me? I hope you and your husband can get on the same page about your son. Giving him your money to flip houses is a bad choice. Yes, son needs to get busy or drown. But let him do it with his own money. Do not give him a dime. There is a really good resource on youtube called "Put The Shovel Down." by Amber, there are even videos about spouses not being on the same page on how to deal with adult children. I hope you will watch some of her stuff. It has helped me. Not to say I have fixed myself over enabling my son but the videos do help me get my thinking straight. Addicts lie, steal, take advantage, manipulate, and never take responsibility for their actions. We are all sick, WE are co-dependent. None of the problems your son has is yours to fix. He is a grown man. If his wife is eating herself to death. Not your problem. Son is drinking himself to death. Not your problem. Stay on your side of the street is what Amber says, We like to control our adult children when we see them go off the wrong way. They will take our money and get mad if we don't give them money. The money is not gonna fix anything. Only your son can fix his life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom58, post: 763724, member: 23925"] Hi Hurting mom, omg does your story sound familiar to me? I hope you and your husband can get on the same page about your son. Giving him your money to flip houses is a bad choice. Yes, son needs to get busy or drown. But let him do it with his own money. Do not give him a dime. There is a really good resource on youtube called "Put The Shovel Down." by Amber, there are even videos about spouses not being on the same page on how to deal with adult children. I hope you will watch some of her stuff. It has helped me. Not to say I have fixed myself over enabling my son but the videos do help me get my thinking straight. Addicts lie, steal, take advantage, manipulate, and never take responsibility for their actions. We are all sick, WE are co-dependent. None of the problems your son has is yours to fix. He is a grown man. If his wife is eating herself to death. Not your problem. Son is drinking himself to death. Not your problem. Stay on your side of the street is what Amber says, We like to control our adult children when we see them go off the wrong way. They will take our money and get mad if we don't give them money. The money is not gonna fix anything. Only your son can fix his life. [/QUOTE]
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