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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 629189" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Even identical twins turn out very differently quite often. If nature would trump environmental factors, that wouldn't be a case. And even more so it is common that same parents have kids who end up to very different life even though same genetically factors are there to play.</p><p></p><p>Environmental factors are what tend to change. There never is two kids raised in same way and same environment in one family. Life isn't stable and family situation, life events, family dynamics all change and no two kids in the same family has a same childhood or same upbringing even when it comes to things in the family, and as said, things in the family are just a tiny bit of environmental factors. And children don't answer same way to same parenting techniques. One parent for example may be in their comfort zone when they talk calmly with a child who likes to think things through deeply and from many point of views but feels exhausted with a child who needs clear and precis instructions and doesn't care much about talking about whys. And someone loses their cool with sensitive, easily crying child, who never dares to try anything even a bit different and some one else is totally in the end of their rope with wild daredevil child. Two different kids will always have different relationship with their parent even though parent feels he or she treated the children just the same.</p><p></p><p>But as said, parents have only one part to play in environmental factors. In the end most parents spend just couple wake hours a day with their kids. Rest 10 to 14 wake hours the kids are influenced mostly by totally different people or things. And then there are physical surroundings and how they influence. For example something like lead paint in the crib or toy has changed quite a many 'natures' to totally different. And even when it is nothing huge like that, simple things like sleep pattern, nutrition, exercise and playing etc. change the brains of the kids.</p><p></p><p>If the troubled kid is adopted, it is easy to think that is what is causing the problems. When you have given birth for your troubled kid, you start to notice it is not all birth parents fault...</p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 629189, member: 14557"] Even identical twins turn out very differently quite often. If nature would trump environmental factors, that wouldn't be a case. And even more so it is common that same parents have kids who end up to very different life even though same genetically factors are there to play. Environmental factors are what tend to change. There never is two kids raised in same way and same environment in one family. Life isn't stable and family situation, life events, family dynamics all change and no two kids in the same family has a same childhood or same upbringing even when it comes to things in the family, and as said, things in the family are just a tiny bit of environmental factors. And children don't answer same way to same parenting techniques. One parent for example may be in their comfort zone when they talk calmly with a child who likes to think things through deeply and from many point of views but feels exhausted with a child who needs clear and precis instructions and doesn't care much about talking about whys. And someone loses their cool with sensitive, easily crying child, who never dares to try anything even a bit different and some one else is totally in the end of their rope with wild daredevil child. Two different kids will always have different relationship with their parent even though parent feels he or she treated the children just the same. But as said, parents have only one part to play in environmental factors. In the end most parents spend just couple wake hours a day with their kids. Rest 10 to 14 wake hours the kids are influenced mostly by totally different people or things. And then there are physical surroundings and how they influence. For example something like lead paint in the crib or toy has changed quite a many 'natures' to totally different. And even when it is nothing huge like that, simple things like sleep pattern, nutrition, exercise and playing etc. change the brains of the kids. If the troubled kid is adopted, it is easy to think that is what is causing the problems. When you have given birth for your troubled kid, you start to notice it is not all birth parents fault... Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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