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Detachment? Is detaching mostly external/public?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 491424" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Learning detachment is a process...........and for many it requires getting "burned" enough times you just forced yourself not to go there anymore. I disengaged long before I actually detached......then there are different levels of detachment too depending on situation and the person.</p><p></p><p>At the moment I'm totally detached from katie. I'm sure this is mean to "punish" me.......only it isn't because frankly, I just don't care that much. I do care about the grands but no sense in driving myself insane over something I have no control over. In truth, she's punishing herself and the grands. Maybe one day in the distant future she'll figure it out. But I doubt it. </p><p></p><p>To me detached is when you stop letting their decisions and actions have any control in your life or your thoughts. Their life is theirs, yours and is yours.......and you go on living yours to the fullest.</p><p></p><p>But it's a process, don't expect to get it all at once. It doesn't quite work like that.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 491424, member: 84"] Learning detachment is a process...........and for many it requires getting "burned" enough times you just forced yourself not to go there anymore. I disengaged long before I actually detached......then there are different levels of detachment too depending on situation and the person. At the moment I'm totally detached from katie. I'm sure this is mean to "punish" me.......only it isn't because frankly, I just don't care that much. I do care about the grands but no sense in driving myself insane over something I have no control over. In truth, she's punishing herself and the grands. Maybe one day in the distant future she'll figure it out. But I doubt it. To me detached is when you stop letting their decisions and actions have any control in your life or your thoughts. Their life is theirs, yours and is yours.......and you go on living yours to the fullest. But it's a process, don't expect to get it all at once. It doesn't quite work like that. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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