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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 751036" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Copa, I like when threads develop intro deeper discussions. Shame is such a pervasive, deep-rooted issue. It felt good to read that you could relate to what I was feeling. Shame, of course, says we are not good enough, bad to the core, unfixable. And shame, therefore, is a lie. We are all good enough, we are God's children, born in love and loved by our Higher Power .</p><p></p><p>When I feel shame, I have to remind myself that it's a very old trigger that is not correct about me . </p><p></p><p>The behavior of other people is not our responsibility or fault. You did nothing wrong in the bank .And you don't have to apologise for your son's behavior because it is his responsibility and his alone .</p><p></p><p>The people at the bank, and everywhere, will have opinions about others .We can't help that. We are powerless over that. And the opinion of others is none of my business. </p><p></p><p>Please don't hide yourself and let shame win .Adjust your crown, connect to the power that flows inside of you given to you by your Higher Power, and go right back to that bank and conduct your business there.Do not allow shame to make you feel small. It's a lie . I would not even bring up the incident with your son. At all. If one of the ladies you are friendly with says anything to you about it, you have choices in how to respond. Like stating he had a bad day with his mental health, or saying you would rather not talk about it, or being honest and saying you felt embarrassed and were wondering if you could show your face there again (with a smile and half laughing) - you know either not addressing it all or being more light hearted about it. I am sure there are hundreds of other choices and they are there for you to draw upon </p><p></p><p>I found a wonderful talk and meditation on YouTube by a Buddhist monk that helped be dissolve guilt . I will post it underneath for anyone interested in exploring it .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 751036, member: 24254"] Copa, I like when threads develop intro deeper discussions. Shame is such a pervasive, deep-rooted issue. It felt good to read that you could relate to what I was feeling. Shame, of course, says we are not good enough, bad to the core, unfixable. And shame, therefore, is a lie. We are all good enough, we are God's children, born in love and loved by our Higher Power . When I feel shame, I have to remind myself that it's a very old trigger that is not correct about me . The behavior of other people is not our responsibility or fault. You did nothing wrong in the bank .And you don't have to apologise for your son's behavior because it is his responsibility and his alone . The people at the bank, and everywhere, will have opinions about others .We can't help that. We are powerless over that. And the opinion of others is none of my business. Please don't hide yourself and let shame win .Adjust your crown, connect to the power that flows inside of you given to you by your Higher Power, and go right back to that bank and conduct your business there.Do not allow shame to make you feel small. It's a lie . I would not even bring up the incident with your son. At all. If one of the ladies you are friendly with says anything to you about it, you have choices in how to respond. Like stating he had a bad day with his mental health, or saying you would rather not talk about it, or being honest and saying you felt embarrassed and were wondering if you could show your face there again (with a smile and half laughing) - you know either not addressing it all or being more light hearted about it. I am sure there are hundreds of other choices and they are there for you to draw upon I found a wonderful talk and meditation on YouTube by a Buddhist monk that helped be dissolve guilt . I will post it underneath for anyone interested in exploring it . [/QUOTE]
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