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<blockquote data-quote="Frieda" data-source="post: 758387" data-attributes="member: 18242"><p>My son sounds very much like yours. High IQ, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ADHD, Anxiety disorder and overall pretty reactive. We went through a rough patch during his late teens and considered a group home. Never got very far because he was too high functioning for many services and we don't even have a social worker. He also needs a fair amount of space and quiet, and many of his meltdowns are related to being overstimulated by noise and movement. A group home might not have been the right fit for him. In my son's case a medication adjustment and some maturing did help. He is 20 now, still lives with us and we have legal guardianship. He did not qualify for disability, but he is in college. He is doing well academically but not socially. I worry that he is loosing his chance to, and motivation for independence, but at the same time he lacks the skills (and funds) to live independently. I am not sure if we made all the right decisions with our son, but we sure tried our best. You say your child is happy, and you are still there to support him. It seems like your parent-child relationship is improving with some physical distance. I think you did right to find a solution that disengaged you from the battles at home. Maybe he will thrive and grow into his own. Our kids mature until their late 20s, he will mature too. Maybe it won't work out long term, and then you will have to find a different solution. You sure did not make your decision on a whim and without soul searching.</p><p>As far as what other people think: you know what they say about people and opinions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Frieda, post: 758387, member: 18242"] My son sounds very much like yours. High IQ, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ADHD, Anxiety disorder and overall pretty reactive. We went through a rough patch during his late teens and considered a group home. Never got very far because he was too high functioning for many services and we don't even have a social worker. He also needs a fair amount of space and quiet, and many of his meltdowns are related to being overstimulated by noise and movement. A group home might not have been the right fit for him. In my son's case a medication adjustment and some maturing did help. He is 20 now, still lives with us and we have legal guardianship. He did not qualify for disability, but he is in college. He is doing well academically but not socially. I worry that he is loosing his chance to, and motivation for independence, but at the same time he lacks the skills (and funds) to live independently. I am not sure if we made all the right decisions with our son, but we sure tried our best. You say your child is happy, and you are still there to support him. It seems like your parent-child relationship is improving with some physical distance. I think you did right to find a solution that disengaged you from the battles at home. Maybe he will thrive and grow into his own. Our kids mature until their late 20s, he will mature too. Maybe it won't work out long term, and then you will have to find a different solution. You sure did not make your decision on a whim and without soul searching. As far as what other people think: you know what they say about people and opinions. [/QUOTE]
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