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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 8483" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Sounds very positive. </p><p></p><p>We did the same thing in regard to consequencing young difficult child's behavior by a legal route this past year. He raged and broke things, tore up his room...they even sent an investigator and "camera crew" out to take pics of the damage once we called policed, report filed, etc. </p><p>It helped get him on probation which insured, regular drug testing, individual counceling, psychiatric evaluation (no psychiatric diagnosis was found by that dr though) His GED completed/passed, college started, work hours and community service hours (20). It reminded him this past year that there were eyes even bigger than mom and dads on him and he already got to see what the adult "kennel" looks like in downtown Dallas as he often went with me to be a "bodyguard" of sorts while visiting my oldest difficult child before he was sent to Prison Rehab. It's a very dangerous area. We made a night out of it though: Starbucks, drive downtown, visit time, meeting afterward, and home...there were lots of tears and difficult child saw for himself what misery surrounded places like that. I did not have to speak a word. </p><p></p><p>Anyway...Knowing who to call and have confront him and him knowing the consequences that will await him, based on his behaviors, can be good lessons. </p><p>It works both ways...the results aren't up to us, hopefully they are in a willing spirit "place". </p><p></p><p>You read my post and responded to it, thank you. </p><p>Notice...my difficult child has only raged about a handfull of times this past 12 months of probation and he raged on his very last day of probation, geez. I think it still turned into a learning experience but sadly I have to admit, it doesn't change his "nature", what he is prone to do when he is not thinking, has unrealistic expectations, makes assumptions, and comes to faulty conclusions. </p><p></p><p>I would highly recommend your lawyer and prosecutor discuss mandatory AA meetings as well as any other probation requirements. </p><p>He can successfully complete the terms. Mine did...pretty amazing actually, although I Know he wanted to just give up in the beginning because the list of things required in the year looked SO BIG when taken in entirety rather than smalls chunks along the way...one day at a time. </p><p></p><p></p><p>listening and caring, </p><p>hang in there. </p><p>lovemysons</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 8483, member: 3305"] Sounds very positive. We did the same thing in regard to consequencing young difficult child's behavior by a legal route this past year. He raged and broke things, tore up his room...they even sent an investigator and "camera crew" out to take pics of the damage once we called policed, report filed, etc. It helped get him on probation which insured, regular drug testing, individual counceling, psychiatric evaluation (no psychiatric diagnosis was found by that dr though) His GED completed/passed, college started, work hours and community service hours (20). It reminded him this past year that there were eyes even bigger than mom and dads on him and he already got to see what the adult "kennel" looks like in downtown Dallas as he often went with me to be a "bodyguard" of sorts while visiting my oldest difficult child before he was sent to Prison Rehab. It's a very dangerous area. We made a night out of it though: Starbucks, drive downtown, visit time, meeting afterward, and home...there were lots of tears and difficult child saw for himself what misery surrounded places like that. I did not have to speak a word. Anyway...Knowing who to call and have confront him and him knowing the consequences that will await him, based on his behaviors, can be good lessons. It works both ways...the results aren't up to us, hopefully they are in a willing spirit "place". You read my post and responded to it, thank you. Notice...my difficult child has only raged about a handfull of times this past 12 months of probation and he raged on his very last day of probation, geez. I think it still turned into a learning experience but sadly I have to admit, it doesn't change his "nature", what he is prone to do when he is not thinking, has unrealistic expectations, makes assumptions, and comes to faulty conclusions. I would highly recommend your lawyer and prosecutor discuss mandatory AA meetings as well as any other probation requirements. He can successfully complete the terms. Mine did...pretty amazing actually, although I Know he wanted to just give up in the beginning because the list of things required in the year looked SO BIG when taken in entirety rather than smalls chunks along the way...one day at a time. listening and caring, hang in there. lovemysons [/QUOTE]
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