Awww, first of all, big hugs, Nancy. I know first-hand how hard it is to watch them sabbotage themselves. I have to say, I chuckled at your first line about her being fired for eating a cheese stick while working. That could have come straight out of my son's mouth back in the day. It was never his fault, or everyone else was doing it and they singled him out. Shaking my head.
I echo Kathy's sentiments. IF she's doing the right things and is trying, then helping her is the right thing to do, in my humble opinion. If she's not, then you don't help. That's been husband and my mantra since the beginning with our son. When he finally woke up and started doing the right things and was trying to get his life straightened out, that's when we stepped in. Up until that point, after his son's mom walked out (leaving him with a condo payment he couldn't make on his own and it was in his name because she had bad credit and wasn't on the mortgage) and she maxed out all his credit cards, we didn't step in to help, as he started his downward spiral of drinking. Unfortunately he ended up having to file bankruptcy. He learned a hard life's lesson, but is now digging out and starting over with his credit. Once he began doing the right things, we had to step in.
Fingers crossed that she finds a job and can start over again, trying to be more financially responsible. I don't know of any coaching type places, but am also thinking that sounds like a great idea.
Hugs to your hurting mommy heart.
Deb
