Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
difficult child attempted suicide last night, in hospital
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 621191" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am so very sorry that your journey took this turn. Many of our difficult children threaten suicide, however few actually make serious attempts to do it. I do not know if your daughter took something that could have killed her or not, but I do know you must be terribly scared and confused and not at all sure what to do.</p><p></p><p>I am guessing that perhaps your daughter has pulled other stunts before when somebody upset her or she didn't get her way, although, of course, not being psychic, I'm not sure. I just know how most difficult children are. They will do almost anything to get their way and, in the process, make us feel guilty and, if possible, scare us out of our wits so we will do anything they ask. </p><p></p><p>I am not sure what other disorders your daughter has...I am wondering if she is also borderline, which is harder to catch. Whatever is wrong, you can't cure her. All of us know, in our hearts and our souls and often in the backs of our minds, that our adult children could do something like this at any time and, even if a difficult child is only doing it because he or she is angry or temporarily wanting to die, the worst could happen. Fortunately, it did not happen.</p><p></p><p>What can you do? Probably not a whole lot. You can't change her. I suggest, and I'm serious, that you spend time reading our stories here and our suggestions and take what hits you the right way and do it and disregard what you don't feel is helpful in your situation. There is much wisdom on this board. We all have some idea (not exactly but some) of what you are going through and we also have shared (and some still do) the sheer frustration of being unable to wipe their noses, like we could when they were small and we could make it better. </p><p></p><p>I am a mental health patient myself and I am leery of any professional who claims to be an expert in those who are resistant to treatment. Why? Because EVERYONE can be resistant to ALL treatment. All they have to do is refuse to listen to the doctor and many of our difficult children refuse to listen to the doctors, to take their medication that is prescribed, to go to their therapy appointments, to quit using recreational drugs or drinking too much...if they won't DO the treatment, they are not treatment resistant...they are refusing treatment. If this is a big money drop for you, my own opinion, which is NOT the law of the land remember, is that I would probably not do it IF daughter has shown to be non-compliant with other doctors. She needs to WANT the help. The rock bottom thing isn't so far off. Some of the mentally ill won't admit they are, and need to hit the ground hard in order to accept treatment; some never do. </p><p></p><p>I do not know your daughter's entire story and since you sounded so sad and your story WAS so sad I wanted to give you empathy, warmth and comfort right away without bothering to read the backstory. You need to decide on your own what you are comfortable doing to try to help your daughter, but be mindful that she may not let you. Any decision you make is the right decision for you, in this moment in time, and do not second guess yourself. Not today. Not while you grieve. And let yourself feel sad, but know that you do need to go on with your own life. If your daughter is a drama queen, this will not be her last performance. You can't change her. What you can change is your reaction to what she does and how you approach her after an episode.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you as much serenity and peace as you can muster up for now.</p><p></p><p>"God grand me the SERENITY to accept the things I can not change,</p><p>"The COURAGE to change the things I can"</p><p>"And the WISDOM to know the difference."</p><p></p><p>When my daughter used to do hard drugs, I wore a necklace with that poem around my neck to remind me. And you don't need to believe in a God to take the rest of the wisdom that is there.</p><p></p><p>We are here for you, on call, free of charge...24/7. We even work holidays. Post anytime and somebody will come to soothe your hurting mommy heart. Gentle hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 621191, member: 1550"] I am so very sorry that your journey took this turn. Many of our difficult children threaten suicide, however few actually make serious attempts to do it. I do not know if your daughter took something that could have killed her or not, but I do know you must be terribly scared and confused and not at all sure what to do. I am guessing that perhaps your daughter has pulled other stunts before when somebody upset her or she didn't get her way, although, of course, not being psychic, I'm not sure. I just know how most difficult children are. They will do almost anything to get their way and, in the process, make us feel guilty and, if possible, scare us out of our wits so we will do anything they ask. I am not sure what other disorders your daughter has...I am wondering if she is also borderline, which is harder to catch. Whatever is wrong, you can't cure her. All of us know, in our hearts and our souls and often in the backs of our minds, that our adult children could do something like this at any time and, even if a difficult child is only doing it because he or she is angry or temporarily wanting to die, the worst could happen. Fortunately, it did not happen. What can you do? Probably not a whole lot. You can't change her. I suggest, and I'm serious, that you spend time reading our stories here and our suggestions and take what hits you the right way and do it and disregard what you don't feel is helpful in your situation. There is much wisdom on this board. We all have some idea (not exactly but some) of what you are going through and we also have shared (and some still do) the sheer frustration of being unable to wipe their noses, like we could when they were small and we could make it better. I am a mental health patient myself and I am leery of any professional who claims to be an expert in those who are resistant to treatment. Why? Because EVERYONE can be resistant to ALL treatment. All they have to do is refuse to listen to the doctor and many of our difficult children refuse to listen to the doctors, to take their medication that is prescribed, to go to their therapy appointments, to quit using recreational drugs or drinking too much...if they won't DO the treatment, they are not treatment resistant...they are refusing treatment. If this is a big money drop for you, my own opinion, which is NOT the law of the land remember, is that I would probably not do it IF daughter has shown to be non-compliant with other doctors. She needs to WANT the help. The rock bottom thing isn't so far off. Some of the mentally ill won't admit they are, and need to hit the ground hard in order to accept treatment; some never do. I do not know your daughter's entire story and since you sounded so sad and your story WAS so sad I wanted to give you empathy, warmth and comfort right away without bothering to read the backstory. You need to decide on your own what you are comfortable doing to try to help your daughter, but be mindful that she may not let you. Any decision you make is the right decision for you, in this moment in time, and do not second guess yourself. Not today. Not while you grieve. And let yourself feel sad, but know that you do need to go on with your own life. If your daughter is a drama queen, this will not be her last performance. You can't change her. What you can change is your reaction to what she does and how you approach her after an episode. Wishing you as much serenity and peace as you can muster up for now. "God grand me the SERENITY to accept the things I can not change, "The COURAGE to change the things I can" "And the WISDOM to know the difference." When my daughter used to do hard drugs, I wore a necklace with that poem around my neck to remind me. And you don't need to believe in a God to take the rest of the wisdom that is there. We are here for you, on call, free of charge...24/7. We even work holidays. Post anytime and somebody will come to soothe your hurting mommy heart. Gentle hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
difficult child attempted suicide last night, in hospital
Top