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difficult child back on drugs again, very worried and need advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 505072"><p>It's a totally crazy idea. I am sorry. And I think it will backfire. I know how much you want him in school and want him to go to meetings - but it's not worth it at any price. And by paying him you will be fueling his drug habit. He will never be serious about his recovery if you are paying him to go to meetings. All you are doing is acknowledging that he has the power and the control in this situation and that's going to go to his head. I think it will do more harm than good. </p><p></p><p>Do you have a professional therapist or psychiatrist you can talk to?</p><p></p><p>Please don't think I am being judgy. I too have thought of similar things. And we bribe our kids to get good grades and it has worked really well. (we pay $10 for an A, $5 for a B; plus a $100 bonus for straight As - figure it's cheaper than tutoring) When difficult child decided he wanted to be a difficult child and his grades started falling last year - we upped the incentive to $100 for each A and $50 for each B plus and a $500 bonus for straight As - figuring he was now in college and loved extra money. He got 3 Cs and a D that semester. Live and Learn. </p><p></p><p>Money is added incentive but it can't be the incentive</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 505072"] It's a totally crazy idea. I am sorry. And I think it will backfire. I know how much you want him in school and want him to go to meetings - but it's not worth it at any price. And by paying him you will be fueling his drug habit. He will never be serious about his recovery if you are paying him to go to meetings. All you are doing is acknowledging that he has the power and the control in this situation and that's going to go to his head. I think it will do more harm than good. Do you have a professional therapist or psychiatrist you can talk to? Please don't think I am being judgy. I too have thought of similar things. And we bribe our kids to get good grades and it has worked really well. (we pay $10 for an A, $5 for a B; plus a $100 bonus for straight As - figure it's cheaper than tutoring) When difficult child decided he wanted to be a difficult child and his grades started falling last year - we upped the incentive to $100 for each A and $50 for each B plus and a $500 bonus for straight As - figuring he was now in college and loved extra money. He got 3 Cs and a D that semester. Live and Learn. Money is added incentive but it can't be the incentive [/QUOTE]
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