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difficult child back on drugs again, very worried and need advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 505134" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>PV I hope you were able to rest last night, but I'm sure your heart ached terribly. It was almost a year ago exactly when we told our difficult child not to come home because she was relapsing after rehab and not going to school and not coming home most nights. She tried to come home late one night in a snowstorm and we wouldn't open the door. She banged and kicked it and screamed horrible things to us and we called the police who told her she had to leave. We watched her walk down to the end of the drive and sit in the snow for an hour until someone picked her up. We found out later he gave her $60 to spend the night in a hotel room down the road. It was a very very cold, wintery night and I cried all night. I wanted to open the door and run out and hug her and let her back in but I knew I couldn't. I ached all over.</p><p></p><p>She came home the next day promising to go back to school, stop smoking pot and get back to AA meetings. It lasted until that evening when she went out and didn't come home until the next day. When she came in we told her she had to leave and once again she threw a fit, broke furniture, threw pictures off the wall, ran upstairs and packed a small bag, slammed her door and broke it off the hinges and left. </p><p></p><p>She moved in with our pothead neighbor for six weeks until she begged to come home and we said no and gave her some numbers to call for help. She ended up in a sober house where she stayed six months.</p><p></p><p>What you are living through right now is the most difficult time with a difficult child who is actively using drugs. You are in limbo, you don't know what to do, there is no plan other than to get through that hour, that day. nd the next day is more of the same and there is no end in sight. </p><p></p><p>The only thing I wish I had differently during that time is I wish I had a place that I could have offered her as an alternative to coming home, either a treatment facility (but we had no money left by then) or a sober house. I wish we had been calmer during those days and stuck to the mantra that she needed to get help for her drug use and that is all we would support. Instead we kept telling her not to come home, and eventually she didn't. But we were flying by the seat of out pants at that time also and looking back there was nothing we could have done at that time that would have changed the outcome. She was not ready to get help then, but I probably would have felt better knowing there was an alternative out there.</p><p></p><p>Can you call the treatment center he was in and get some advice on where you should go from here and how you should handle it. I am so sorry this is happening. I remember like it was yesterday, I relive it every time I hear the story of another member on this forum. You are in my thoughts.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 505134, member: 59"] PV I hope you were able to rest last night, but I'm sure your heart ached terribly. It was almost a year ago exactly when we told our difficult child not to come home because she was relapsing after rehab and not going to school and not coming home most nights. She tried to come home late one night in a snowstorm and we wouldn't open the door. She banged and kicked it and screamed horrible things to us and we called the police who told her she had to leave. We watched her walk down to the end of the drive and sit in the snow for an hour until someone picked her up. We found out later he gave her $60 to spend the night in a hotel room down the road. It was a very very cold, wintery night and I cried all night. I wanted to open the door and run out and hug her and let her back in but I knew I couldn't. I ached all over. She came home the next day promising to go back to school, stop smoking pot and get back to AA meetings. It lasted until that evening when she went out and didn't come home until the next day. When she came in we told her she had to leave and once again she threw a fit, broke furniture, threw pictures off the wall, ran upstairs and packed a small bag, slammed her door and broke it off the hinges and left. She moved in with our pothead neighbor for six weeks until she begged to come home and we said no and gave her some numbers to call for help. She ended up in a sober house where she stayed six months. What you are living through right now is the most difficult time with a difficult child who is actively using drugs. You are in limbo, you don't know what to do, there is no plan other than to get through that hour, that day. nd the next day is more of the same and there is no end in sight. The only thing I wish I had differently during that time is I wish I had a place that I could have offered her as an alternative to coming home, either a treatment facility (but we had no money left by then) or a sober house. I wish we had been calmer during those days and stuck to the mantra that she needed to get help for her drug use and that is all we would support. Instead we kept telling her not to come home, and eventually she didn't. But we were flying by the seat of out pants at that time also and looking back there was nothing we could have done at that time that would have changed the outcome. She was not ready to get help then, but I probably would have felt better knowing there was an alternative out there. Can you call the treatment center he was in and get some advice on where you should go from here and how you should handle it. I am so sorry this is happening. I remember like it was yesterday, I relive it every time I hear the story of another member on this forum. You are in my thoughts. Hugs, Nancy [/QUOTE]
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