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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 515608" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>With the info Hound Dog asked for, others of us could add more specific ideas also. </p><p></p><p>I would stop giving her ANYTHING and lock up everything you can. I would also give her a move out date. Where will she go? Not your problem. WIll she starve? Only if she really wants to. Will she find a place? Who knows, and neither your problem nor your business.</p><p></p><p>All that you do by allowing her to live iwth you and not contribute is infantilize her and allow her to become more entrenched in her depression and do-nothingness. medications might help the depression, but not if she won't take them. She also needs therapy to go along with the medications or they are pointless because you really need both to treat it effectively.</p><p></p><p>WHy not cut off her computer access? Do you use the computer at home much? Password protect your router and don't let her have the password. If you don't use a computer at home, then cut off the internet service for a few months. If all she does is play online games, then she can't do that with no internet. If she plays games on a computer that doesn't need the internet, lock it up or get rid of it for a while. Your home, your rules. Period. If she doesn't like it she is free to leave. </p><p></p><p>I know it sounds hard hearted, but you do her no favors by allowing her to live at home and do nothing with her life. She may need help adjusting to being blind or learning to cope as an adult, but she won't do that while plugged into a computer all day. </p><p></p><p>We are a group of parents who have been there done that, and we know these are suggestions and may not fit your situation. So take what is useful and leave the rest. We truly understand. I would suggest that you seek out support for the blind to see what is out there to help her and to help you as her parent. Not instead of us, in addition to us, of course!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 515608, member: 1233"] With the info Hound Dog asked for, others of us could add more specific ideas also. I would stop giving her ANYTHING and lock up everything you can. I would also give her a move out date. Where will she go? Not your problem. WIll she starve? Only if she really wants to. Will she find a place? Who knows, and neither your problem nor your business. All that you do by allowing her to live iwth you and not contribute is infantilize her and allow her to become more entrenched in her depression and do-nothingness. medications might help the depression, but not if she won't take them. She also needs therapy to go along with the medications or they are pointless because you really need both to treat it effectively. WHy not cut off her computer access? Do you use the computer at home much? Password protect your router and don't let her have the password. If you don't use a computer at home, then cut off the internet service for a few months. If all she does is play online games, then she can't do that with no internet. If she plays games on a computer that doesn't need the internet, lock it up or get rid of it for a while. Your home, your rules. Period. If she doesn't like it she is free to leave. I know it sounds hard hearted, but you do her no favors by allowing her to live at home and do nothing with her life. She may need help adjusting to being blind or learning to cope as an adult, but she won't do that while plugged into a computer all day. We are a group of parents who have been there done that, and we know these are suggestions and may not fit your situation. So take what is useful and leave the rest. We truly understand. I would suggest that you seek out support for the blind to see what is out there to help her and to help you as her parent. Not instead of us, in addition to us, of course!!! [/QUOTE]
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