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difficult child I gets a phone call and all heck breaks loose
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<blockquote data-quote="Love the sunshine" data-source="post: 191551" data-attributes="member: 5759"><p>amazeofgrace,</p><p> </p><p>Does your son's po not allow you to provide any input regarding him coming off house arrest? Maybe we're just lucky, but my son's po made sure my husband and I were OK with it before she agreed to let him off house arrest. If your son starts any trouble at all tomorrow, I would call her immediately. It could be different in our state and with my son's po, but since he's still 17, she allows us to give a lot of input and checks with us frequently about his behavior.</p><p> </p><p>And I can't stress enough how much I agree with what the others said regarding your safety. Please, get your safety plan in place. The second your son starts something where you feel you are in danger, follow through on your plan to keep everyone safe - including your son. As you know, things can escalate SO quickly.</p><p> </p><p>It's so difficult to handle the rages when they are younger, but when they get to be in their late teens and older, it can be really scary. A few months ago, we had to call the police and have our son housed because of a violent rage. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. As I looked back, I thought I should have done it sooner. If I were looking at a stranger's situation, it would be a "no-brainer" -that person is violent - call the police and keep the family safe.</p><p> </p><p>However, as a mom of a difficult child with behavior like that, maybe we become desensitized to what is happening, or maybe their behavior gradually gets worse, or maybe we subconciously downplay incidents after the fact. I know it's probably a combination of all of those things for me. I'm not an expert, but I'm thinking those are VERY common behaviors/characteristics of victims of abuse - physical AND verbal. I can't let myself fall into those traps anymore. I wouldn't want you to either.</p><p> </p><p>Take care of yourself and stay safe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Love the sunshine, post: 191551, member: 5759"] amazeofgrace, Does your son's po not allow you to provide any input regarding him coming off house arrest? Maybe we're just lucky, but my son's po made sure my husband and I were OK with it before she agreed to let him off house arrest. If your son starts any trouble at all tomorrow, I would call her immediately. It could be different in our state and with my son's po, but since he's still 17, she allows us to give a lot of input and checks with us frequently about his behavior. And I can't stress enough how much I agree with what the others said regarding your safety. Please, get your safety plan in place. The second your son starts something where you feel you are in danger, follow through on your plan to keep everyone safe - including your son. As you know, things can escalate SO quickly. It's so difficult to handle the rages when they are younger, but when they get to be in their late teens and older, it can be really scary. A few months ago, we had to call the police and have our son housed because of a violent rage. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. As I looked back, I thought I should have done it sooner. If I were looking at a stranger's situation, it would be a "no-brainer" -that person is violent - call the police and keep the family safe. However, as a mom of a difficult child with behavior like that, maybe we become desensitized to what is happening, or maybe their behavior gradually gets worse, or maybe we subconciously downplay incidents after the fact. I know it's probably a combination of all of those things for me. I'm not an expert, but I'm thinking those are VERY common behaviors/characteristics of victims of abuse - physical AND verbal. I can't let myself fall into those traps anymore. I wouldn't want you to either. Take care of yourself and stay safe. [/QUOTE]
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