Okay "Scent of Ceasar" and Nomad, it is very ironic that you both are talking about the dog whisper trainer. I handle 20+ different dogs on a daily basis, I also trained my 8 yr old Barrel horse and my 4 yr old colt with the horse whisper methods (most of them)
I too have compared training methods with dealing with my difficult child. I holehearted agree with you Barbara, that you just snap back into the mode of blaming yourself for what your difficult child is doing.
That is the difference, if the dog has been abused or neglected I tend to cut it alot more slack than the dogs I know that are just plain spoiled.
But, there lies the same problem. If my difficult child is spoiled...must be my fault for spoiling him.
I have that little demon pop into my head ALOT, but I am learning to call him by his name and shut him out.
My son's choices are my son's choices. If he was living as I chose for him to do, he would be graduating from high school this spring with his class. Not hooping it up with any difficult child he can find to hoop it up with.
As far as it goes, he has called each night this week to let me know he won't be coming home. I guess he did understand it when I said my way or out.
Had belated x-mas at sister in law's house tonight, no difficult child, questions answered.
we are to have belated x-mas (extended family) at my mom's tomorrow, no difficult child again
But, that's okay.
Thank you guys for all the ideas
Nomad, difficult child has never kept a job. At the time we couldn't understand why, now we know`~drugs got in his way
Barbara~thank you for your wisdom, I looked at your post and was shocked that you weren't a founding member. You have a wonderful grip on how to survive with a difficult child. So many things you share sound as though we have walked the very same emotional path.
I feel blessed to have this board to vent and get ideas, also to be able to share with others that understand.
