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difficult child moved out the day after high school graduation
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 538856" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>She's an adult. (yes, that's a bit hard to get used to after caring for them for so many years) These are her decisions to make. Yup. We're wiser because we've been around longer.....and we realize so many things that haven't even occurred to her remotely yet. But they're her mistakes to make. Human beings learn by making mistakes. </p><p></p><p>College doesn't have to be an immediate after HS thing, although it's easier and nicer when they follow that path. But in all honesty, to put it a bit in perspective, she has her entire life to go to college. Perhaps it's best she not go until she can take it seriously because it's certainly not cheap, and that money has to be paid back at some point.</p><p></p><p>As for loser boyfriend............well, he's obviously a difficult child himself without the raising that your daughter has had. If you try to break them up, you risk making their bond tighter. Right now she's probably romanticizing living on her own with her "true love" and blah blah blah. It won't take too long before reality hits and she discovers it's not what it's cracked up to be. YOU want to be there for her when that happens to help her find her way out again. </p><p></p><p>You've raised her well, taught her what she needs to know, now it's time for her to learn to use the knowledge you've given her. And she probably will given some time and as maturity begins to sink in. Not to mention more than a few natural consequences.</p><p></p><p>It's really hard watching your child making enormous mistakes that seem really obvious. But we all make similar mistakes. It's just part of growing up. Perhaps her bipolar is playing a role.....but she will have to learn to manage that as an adult as well, learn to recognize when she's being manic or depressed, learn to go for help when she needs it.</p><p></p><p>We all learn that ultimately we have to do what we each can live with, but offering her as little help while she's in this lifestyle as possible will let natural consequences take their course much quicker and ups the odds she'll see she's made a wrong decision. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 538856, member: 84"] She's an adult. (yes, that's a bit hard to get used to after caring for them for so many years) These are her decisions to make. Yup. We're wiser because we've been around longer.....and we realize so many things that haven't even occurred to her remotely yet. But they're her mistakes to make. Human beings learn by making mistakes. College doesn't have to be an immediate after HS thing, although it's easier and nicer when they follow that path. But in all honesty, to put it a bit in perspective, she has her entire life to go to college. Perhaps it's best she not go until she can take it seriously because it's certainly not cheap, and that money has to be paid back at some point. As for loser boyfriend............well, he's obviously a difficult child himself without the raising that your daughter has had. If you try to break them up, you risk making their bond tighter. Right now she's probably romanticizing living on her own with her "true love" and blah blah blah. It won't take too long before reality hits and she discovers it's not what it's cracked up to be. YOU want to be there for her when that happens to help her find her way out again. You've raised her well, taught her what she needs to know, now it's time for her to learn to use the knowledge you've given her. And she probably will given some time and as maturity begins to sink in. Not to mention more than a few natural consequences. It's really hard watching your child making enormous mistakes that seem really obvious. But we all make similar mistakes. It's just part of growing up. Perhaps her bipolar is playing a role.....but she will have to learn to manage that as an adult as well, learn to recognize when she's being manic or depressed, learn to go for help when she needs it. We all learn that ultimately we have to do what we each can live with, but offering her as little help while she's in this lifestyle as possible will let natural consequences take their course much quicker and ups the odds she'll see she's made a wrong decision. Welcome to the board. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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