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difficult child stabbed yesterday, he's okay, in hospital
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 634520" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Hi Child,</p><p></p><p>I'm glad to get an update. I find a lot to agree with in your post, and I feel the heaviness of some of these..I won't even call them decisions...realizations? occurences? This place you are in. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Right? whoever thought we would live to see that day. There was at least a year when I thought that was a thing I would be OK with forever...I mean, of course I want him to have clean not smelly clothes, right? then it went from occasional..to regular, every Saturday (so then I had to stay home on Saturday mornings, and time my run or my trip to the farmer's market to get home on time to meet him) to he wanted to take a shower while waiting for laundry, to him helping himself to the refridgerator, falling asleep watching TV, spending 12 hours on Saturday at my house...so yes...you made the right call...see your comment below!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think this is true and important. I had the same realization about a year ago (and of course have backslid many times since then..it is so hard to see it coming!) I facilitate his perpetuating his lousy choices. Even if he doesn't learn anythign from my refusals, I can't afford myself, mentally, emotionally, to facilitate his yucky life choices (yes ladies I am judging)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is OK Child. It is OK that you feel this way today. Its OK to not want to know. Sometimes enough is enough. As you said to me once...there is such a thing as too much, wherever that line is. Sometimes it is a big drama event, and sometimes it is the slow leaching away of our energy. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I had the same thought. difficult child makes himself sort of pathetic sometimes in the hopes he'll help..I mean...when he fell off a bike when he was six I held him in my lap and kissed him, right? I find this angle to be ...yucky!!!! My favorite word lately!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yup. Go to the hospital, young man. You have a serious injury and you should be taking care of it. If it isn't really hurt, then keep it to yourself. Don't try to pull at Mom's heartstrings for no reason. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>There is such a thing as too much.</p><p></p><p>Child, it is OK to be where you are. You may or may not stay here forever. Today...it is fine.</p><p></p><p>Get the to your 12 step meeting. Hold SO's hand. Blessings on your today and all days.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 634520, member: 17269"] Hi Child, I'm glad to get an update. I find a lot to agree with in your post, and I feel the heaviness of some of these..I won't even call them decisions...realizations? occurences? This place you are in. Right? whoever thought we would live to see that day. There was at least a year when I thought that was a thing I would be OK with forever...I mean, of course I want him to have clean not smelly clothes, right? then it went from occasional..to regular, every Saturday (so then I had to stay home on Saturday mornings, and time my run or my trip to the farmer's market to get home on time to meet him) to he wanted to take a shower while waiting for laundry, to him helping himself to the refridgerator, falling asleep watching TV, spending 12 hours on Saturday at my house...so yes...you made the right call...see your comment below! I think this is true and important. I had the same realization about a year ago (and of course have backslid many times since then..it is so hard to see it coming!) I facilitate his perpetuating his lousy choices. Even if he doesn't learn anythign from my refusals, I can't afford myself, mentally, emotionally, to facilitate his yucky life choices (yes ladies I am judging) This is OK Child. It is OK that you feel this way today. Its OK to not want to know. Sometimes enough is enough. As you said to me once...there is such a thing as too much, wherever that line is. Sometimes it is a big drama event, and sometimes it is the slow leaching away of our energy. I had the same thought. difficult child makes himself sort of pathetic sometimes in the hopes he'll help..I mean...when he fell off a bike when he was six I held him in my lap and kissed him, right? I find this angle to be ...yucky!!!! My favorite word lately! Yup. Go to the hospital, young man. You have a serious injury and you should be taking care of it. If it isn't really hurt, then keep it to yourself. Don't try to pull at Mom's heartstrings for no reason. There is such a thing as too much. Child, it is OK to be where you are. You may or may not stay here forever. Today...it is fine. Get the to your 12 step meeting. Hold SO's hand. Blessings on your today and all days. Echo [/QUOTE]
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