If you would have said no and she did it anyway it is stealing...does it matter that it was just for gas...Just a thought, do you have levels that are acceptable in what she will take from you?? I say WILL because for most of us unfortunately once it starts "its on"
My difficult child ss14 steals from everyone insignificant items but still someone elses property. We all have locks but we have moved him to a new school and he is no longer left alone at home _ever_. Only you know your daughter but consider what you are comfortable with having disappear because it can happen. Most of us are not comfortable with missing items which is why we now are under lock and key. Terrible yes, but necesssary none the less.
Again, something you have to consider is easy child's valuables. I think she should know so she does not wind up missing her debit card or money. Afterward would be to late and trying to spare their relationship well ....If yours are anything like mine it is always a love/hate relationship. difficult child or not...although the gfgness does add some additional hardship.
Just another perspective. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I certainly understand the escaping to work. When I went through my divorce my job was my sanity. Sometimes we need that break from our home life.
