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difficult child upped the ante ~ police and ambulance were here
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 478231" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Nancy - I could not agree with you more. I don't know - I guess I kind of assume that maternal heartache is inevitable as some of our kids struggle to find their way. We're either worried sick because we know what they're doing or because we don't know what they're doing. There isn't an easy answer and, in my experience anyway, there was nothing that could have prevented or soothed my heartache. I certainly did not mean to diminish at all what a lousy situation Kathy is in, or discount her sorrow. </p><p></p><p>I guess, as with deciding if/when Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement is necessary for our younger kids, the same thing applies to when to withdraw from our adult difficult child's chaos. We all have different tolerances. Mine was shot long before thank you hit 18. Doesn't mean I was sitting here content by any stretch of the imagination - I think I cried daily for 9 months over him. But... I simply couldn't ride his roller-coaster anymore. Maybe I'm weak or selfish - I look at what you and Kathy and some other PE parents do, over and over and over again, and I admire your willingness to keep coming back for more. I really do. </p><p></p><p>Detachment is a process, Kathy, or maybe an evolution because it keeps on changing, and I think it's probably different for all of us, but I don't think it will ever make us immune to our feelings about the situations our kids can get themselves into. </p><p></p><p>At the end of the day, we have to do what we're able to keep on doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 478231, member: 8"] Nancy - I could not agree with you more. I don't know - I guess I kind of assume that maternal heartache is inevitable as some of our kids struggle to find their way. We're either worried sick because we know what they're doing or because we don't know what they're doing. There isn't an easy answer and, in my experience anyway, there was nothing that could have prevented or soothed my heartache. I certainly did not mean to diminish at all what a lousy situation Kathy is in, or discount her sorrow. I guess, as with deciding if/when Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement is necessary for our younger kids, the same thing applies to when to withdraw from our adult difficult child's chaos. We all have different tolerances. Mine was shot long before thank you hit 18. Doesn't mean I was sitting here content by any stretch of the imagination - I think I cried daily for 9 months over him. But... I simply couldn't ride his roller-coaster anymore. Maybe I'm weak or selfish - I look at what you and Kathy and some other PE parents do, over and over and over again, and I admire your willingness to keep coming back for more. I really do. Detachment is a process, Kathy, or maybe an evolution because it keeps on changing, and I think it's probably different for all of us, but I don't think it will ever make us immune to our feelings about the situations our kids can get themselves into. At the end of the day, we have to do what we're able to keep on doing. [/QUOTE]
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