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???difficult child's Aware They Have BiPolar???????
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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 159209" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>My 19 yr old difficult child will tell you she has bipolar..but what we encounter here, - yeesh, doctors, teachers etc love to dismiss it.....or they love to dwell on it and blame EVERYTHING on the bipolar, everything from a sore throat to forgetting something at the grocery store.....Some people say "well bipolar is no excuse" and some tell us "oh THAT explains everything" </p><p>There is so much stigma, so much misunderstanding and lack of understanding out in the world, it can make it very hard for a young adult, or even an established adult feel comfortable admitting they have bipolar to themself or anyone else. So many are so quick to use it as ammunition or treat it as a character flaw or a weakness....or to use it in some other negative way. Very often when people are discussing a person who has a diagnosis of bipolar, that person is NOT being discussed in a positive manner, so why would our difficult children WANT to admit they have this diagnosis? It seems to be used not as a diagnosis but more like a derogatory slam so often. The focus is seldom on how hard a difficult child might have worked to rise above the disorder, but rather as a way to say well, Hmph, look at them, they messed up again.it is just SO negative. Others do not seem very quick to realize just how much work it can take for a difficult child to scale the mountain of success. And then the medications get the credit for any suuccess, not the difficult child. </p><p>It is not unusual, tho for people to deny even to themself any type of serious illness.... I fought long and hard seeking a diagnosis for my symptoms that crippled me (literally) yet once I HAD the diagnosis, I denied it to myself. I simply could not own that diagnosis for the longest time. I had an image stuck in my head of what a persons life was like if they had that diagnosis and it did not fit with how I saw myself. And I was not the least bit interested in becoming like the image I had in my head of someone with that diagnosis. And similar to mental illness, others would enforce my denial of my diagnosis and tell me, no, you cannot let that stop you......put your mind above that..you are too young, you are too vital, you cannot give in to haveing that diagnosis.....</p><p></p><p>The world does not like people to admit to any serious chronic long term illness, it makes them uncomfortable. And when someone else is telling you you have this ugly illness, it very often feels like they are only saying it to hurt your feelings, or to be mean. Altho if you say so and so has cancer, people muster sympathy and pity, but if you say so and so has bipolar, most of the time people muster dislike, avoidance, fear and other negative feelings. Who wants to own a label that feels derogatory?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 159209, member: 1697"] My 19 yr old difficult child will tell you she has bipolar..but what we encounter here, - yeesh, doctors, teachers etc love to dismiss it.....or they love to dwell on it and blame EVERYTHING on the bipolar, everything from a sore throat to forgetting something at the grocery store.....Some people say "well bipolar is no excuse" and some tell us "oh THAT explains everything" There is so much stigma, so much misunderstanding and lack of understanding out in the world, it can make it very hard for a young adult, or even an established adult feel comfortable admitting they have bipolar to themself or anyone else. So many are so quick to use it as ammunition or treat it as a character flaw or a weakness....or to use it in some other negative way. Very often when people are discussing a person who has a diagnosis of bipolar, that person is NOT being discussed in a positive manner, so why would our difficult children WANT to admit they have this diagnosis? It seems to be used not as a diagnosis but more like a derogatory slam so often. The focus is seldom on how hard a difficult child might have worked to rise above the disorder, but rather as a way to say well, Hmph, look at them, they messed up again.it is just SO negative. Others do not seem very quick to realize just how much work it can take for a difficult child to scale the mountain of success. And then the medications get the credit for any suuccess, not the difficult child. It is not unusual, tho for people to deny even to themself any type of serious illness.... I fought long and hard seeking a diagnosis for my symptoms that crippled me (literally) yet once I HAD the diagnosis, I denied it to myself. I simply could not own that diagnosis for the longest time. I had an image stuck in my head of what a persons life was like if they had that diagnosis and it did not fit with how I saw myself. And I was not the least bit interested in becoming like the image I had in my head of someone with that diagnosis. And similar to mental illness, others would enforce my denial of my diagnosis and tell me, no, you cannot let that stop you......put your mind above that..you are too young, you are too vital, you cannot give in to haveing that diagnosis..... The world does not like people to admit to any serious chronic long term illness, it makes them uncomfortable. And when someone else is telling you you have this ugly illness, it very often feels like they are only saying it to hurt your feelings, or to be mean. Altho if you say so and so has cancer, people muster sympathy and pity, but if you say so and so has bipolar, most of the time people muster dislike, avoidance, fear and other negative feelings. Who wants to own a label that feels derogatory? [/QUOTE]
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