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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 640889" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Going to Al-Anon is a good way to take care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>difficult children tend to cycle...they have good times (often when they are in safe places and often jail/prison is safe for them. They make no decisions. Everything is decided for them). But their true nature will eventually come out. I kind of agree with your son's beliefs, although I do believe in a God, however I would never start belittling somebody else's beliefs. I don't know what possessed him to go into that with you. I guess he is just a difficult child and that's what they do.</p><p></p><p>As for son #2, I am sorry he is also giving your grief. I have a suggestion. Never ever ever ever ever give him a dime, even if he says it's for his child. If his son neeeds vitamins find out what kind, buy them, then he can give them to baby momma. Don't hand a dime over to him. Buy what you want the baby to have, but handing over money is like buying drugs, just like you said. Just Say No <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I see that your son is 25. So why doesn't he work? Can you afford to support his...whatever-he-does-with-his-money? I know I couldn't.</p><p></p><p>Pets are wonderful about knowing how to soothe us, aren't they? Have you thought about maybe volunteering at a humane society or a rescue or volunteering ANYHWERE? I did that when I was out of work and it really filled my emptiness. I met a lot of people and found I was not alone. Since you are a believer, maybe get into some church activities. Heck, maybe join Match.Com and try to find a nice man <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Take care of yourself now. Many people do not get along with their relatives, including their children. It is up to us to create our own support system...and Al-Anon can be a step in the right direction. Some groups go out for coffee afterward!</p><p></p><p>It really hurts my heart when I read about people whose grown children are ALL dysfunctional, but it is still possible to live a full and happy life. Some people never have children and are happy (sometimes I think happier than us!). I hope you can find serenity and peace in your life in spite of your grown children's bad behaviors. We teach them until they are men and women and they know right from wrong. If they choose to talk a bad fork in the road, it is on them, not us.</p><p></p><p>Try to have a good night and keep posting. We are a support system too!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 640889, member: 1550"] Going to Al-Anon is a good way to take care of yourself. difficult children tend to cycle...they have good times (often when they are in safe places and often jail/prison is safe for them. They make no decisions. Everything is decided for them). But their true nature will eventually come out. I kind of agree with your son's beliefs, although I do believe in a God, however I would never start belittling somebody else's beliefs. I don't know what possessed him to go into that with you. I guess he is just a difficult child and that's what they do. As for son #2, I am sorry he is also giving your grief. I have a suggestion. Never ever ever ever ever give him a dime, even if he says it's for his child. If his son neeeds vitamins find out what kind, buy them, then he can give them to baby momma. Don't hand a dime over to him. Buy what you want the baby to have, but handing over money is like buying drugs, just like you said. Just Say No ;) I see that your son is 25. So why doesn't he work? Can you afford to support his...whatever-he-does-with-his-money? I know I couldn't. Pets are wonderful about knowing how to soothe us, aren't they? Have you thought about maybe volunteering at a humane society or a rescue or volunteering ANYHWERE? I did that when I was out of work and it really filled my emptiness. I met a lot of people and found I was not alone. Since you are a believer, maybe get into some church activities. Heck, maybe join Match.Com and try to find a nice man ;) Take care of yourself now. Many people do not get along with their relatives, including their children. It is up to us to create our own support system...and Al-Anon can be a step in the right direction. Some groups go out for coffee afterward! It really hurts my heart when I read about people whose grown children are ALL dysfunctional, but it is still possible to live a full and happy life. Some people never have children and are happy (sometimes I think happier than us!). I hope you can find serenity and peace in your life in spite of your grown children's bad behaviors. We teach them until they are men and women and they know right from wrong. If they choose to talk a bad fork in the road, it is on them, not us. Try to have a good night and keep posting. We are a support system too! [/QUOTE]
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