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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 564468" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Katya, the behavior you are seeing from him right now is typical abuser/control freak behavior. Red flags went off all over the place. It won't change. Even if he might not be that way with someone else, he will more than likely always be that way with you. People fall into patterns. My ex doesn't treat his wife in the abusive way he treated me, but he would always treat me that way. My father doesn't treat his SO the way he treated my mom, but he would always treated my mom that way. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry that he can't just be a support for you in your time of need without expectation. But since he can't, you need to have that talk now. It's only going to get more complicated and I worry about his reaction should he become more involved in this idea only to find out it's not going to happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 564468, member: 7083"] Katya, the behavior you are seeing from him right now is typical abuser/control freak behavior. Red flags went off all over the place. It won't change. Even if he might not be that way with someone else, he will more than likely always be that way with you. People fall into patterns. My ex doesn't treat his wife in the abusive way he treated me, but he would always treat me that way. My father doesn't treat his SO the way he treated my mom, but he would always treated my mom that way. I'm sorry that he can't just be a support for you in your time of need without expectation. But since he can't, you need to have that talk now. It's only going to get more complicated and I worry about his reaction should he become more involved in this idea only to find out it's not going to happen. [/QUOTE]
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