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<blockquote data-quote="Giulia" data-source="post: 523035" data-attributes="member: 14306"><p>Hello, </p><p>My two cents about discipline and ADHD. </p><p></p><p>What you can request in the IEP about discipline is a safe place your grandson can go when things are escalating. Like the principal's desk, to the nurse etc etc... A place where he can <u>ask</u> to go for a cooling timeout. It must be a place your grandson can <u>ask</u> to go when he feels unwell.</p><p></p><p>The secret here, as he has no impulse control at all, is being proactive instead of reactive. </p><p>List in a IEP what are the signs for an imminent explosion, and how to redirect it before something dangerous is done. When your grandson is exploding, it's too late. </p><p>With such a step, you can make the school avoid the most dangerous behaviors most of the time. </p><p>The key is <u>prevention</u>, not reaction. </p><p></p><p>For his inability to stay in line, to sit still.... as it does not endanger anyone, you can ask in the IEP to include steps to redirect this behavior. </p><p>Like he can sit on a balloon, he can be the teacher's helper, being at the end of the line.... Whatever works for your grandson.</p><p></p><p>Your grandson won't make the link between a spanking and a misbehavior. He will remember only the spanking, not what caused the spanking. </p><p>So when he endangers someone, ask the school to intervene with low expression emotion. The more the adults express an emotion, the more it fuels the unacceptable and dangerous behavior. </p><p>Ask the school to address <u>the behavior, not your grandson</u>. Sentences like "Hitting is unacceptable because it's dangerous" are much more productive than "you're a nasty and dangerous boy". </p><p>Punishment has to have a direct link with the misbehavior. Like having to write an essay about hitting and danger etc etc.... </p><p>Suspension has to be the shortest possible : no more than two to three days. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Don't be afraid of using the tips for behavior management which work for children with Prader-Willi syndrome and FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder). </p><p>I know that your grandson does not have these pathologies, but the tips for behavior management used for persons with these disabilities can be extremely useful also for your grandson. </p><p></p><p>If you feel your grandson unable to manage his impulse control at school, don't fear of homeschooling him. </p><p>I can understand that you can be afraid about socialization, but the most important is his health. If his ADHD is too instable because he is unable to take medicines, making him go to school is a nonsense : he will have to deal with much more than he can handle. </p><p>Stress is a common factor of unstability, it holds true also for ADHD. </p><p>If school is too much right now for him, it's too much right now for him. Better to learn well with homeschooling than setting up a misery situation at school. Better socializing little but positive than letting him being bullied because of his disability. Also, even unstable, he will learn better at home than at school : if he goes to school but does not learn anything because he struggles with his ADHD, what is the sense of it ?</p><p>More is not necessarily better, instead, more often than not, "less is more". </p><p>So, if you see that your grandson cannot handle school right now, better pulling him out of school until he can resume his medicines.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Giulia, post: 523035, member: 14306"] Hello, My two cents about discipline and ADHD. What you can request in the IEP about discipline is a safe place your grandson can go when things are escalating. Like the principal's desk, to the nurse etc etc... A place where he can [U]ask[/U] to go for a cooling timeout. It must be a place your grandson can [U]ask[/U] to go when he feels unwell. The secret here, as he has no impulse control at all, is being proactive instead of reactive. List in a IEP what are the signs for an imminent explosion, and how to redirect it before something dangerous is done. When your grandson is exploding, it's too late. With such a step, you can make the school avoid the most dangerous behaviors most of the time. The key is [U]prevention[/U], not reaction. For his inability to stay in line, to sit still.... as it does not endanger anyone, you can ask in the IEP to include steps to redirect this behavior. Like he can sit on a balloon, he can be the teacher's helper, being at the end of the line.... Whatever works for your grandson. Your grandson won't make the link between a spanking and a misbehavior. He will remember only the spanking, not what caused the spanking. So when he endangers someone, ask the school to intervene with low expression emotion. The more the adults express an emotion, the more it fuels the unacceptable and dangerous behavior. Ask the school to address [U]the behavior, not your grandson[/U]. Sentences like "Hitting is unacceptable because it's dangerous" are much more productive than "you're a nasty and dangerous boy". Punishment has to have a direct link with the misbehavior. Like having to write an essay about hitting and danger etc etc.... Suspension has to be the shortest possible : no more than two to three days. Don't be afraid of using the tips for behavior management which work for children with Prader-Willi syndrome and FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder). I know that your grandson does not have these pathologies, but the tips for behavior management used for persons with these disabilities can be extremely useful also for your grandson. If you feel your grandson unable to manage his impulse control at school, don't fear of homeschooling him. I can understand that you can be afraid about socialization, but the most important is his health. If his ADHD is too instable because he is unable to take medicines, making him go to school is a nonsense : he will have to deal with much more than he can handle. Stress is a common factor of unstability, it holds true also for ADHD. If school is too much right now for him, it's too much right now for him. Better to learn well with homeschooling than setting up a misery situation at school. Better socializing little but positive than letting him being bullied because of his disability. Also, even unstable, he will learn better at home than at school : if he goes to school but does not learn anything because he struggles with his ADHD, what is the sense of it ? More is not necessarily better, instead, more often than not, "less is more". So, if you see that your grandson cannot handle school right now, better pulling him out of school until he can resume his medicines. [/QUOTE]
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