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<blockquote data-quote="graceupongrace" data-source="post: 299987" data-attributes="member: 7371"><p>Sharon,</p><p></p><p>Sorry you have to deal with this. I do think talking to therapist & psychiatrist is a good idea. If he's violent/abusive/threatening over food, it's probably not really about the food, in my humble opinion.</p><p></p><p>My rule is that if the kids fight about a food, or it otherwise becomes a problem, I won't buy it. I used to buy cinnamon rolls, and they'd fight about who ate more than their share, or I'd get enough for two days and they'd finish them in one day, so I stopped buying them. Same with desserts. And guess what -- we all still get the nutrition we need and no one feels deprived. (Well, difficult child complains about the lack of "good" food, but that's because he likes to complain. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />)</p><p></p><p>My kitchen is always stocked with plenty of good, healthy food. The kids can grab a yogurt or make a sandwich (ham, turkey, chicken, leftover steak) anytime. They're happy to have a bowl of cereal as a snack. They like to cook eggs. difficult child constantly makes pb&j sandwiches -- not the best, but at least he's getting some protein. If they eat all of the "breakfast food" all day long, I won't race out to the store; they have to figure out something else for the next day's breakfast. </p><p></p><p>If we want a treat, we go out for ice cream or frozen yogurt, or I buy/make enough for one night's dessert. That allows them a treat, but limits the availablity without resorting to locks. Yes, it would be nice to have more treats around the house (I'd love a brownie right now -- lol!). But on balance, it's not worth it. And I honestly think this strategy has helped the kids differentiate between "need" and "want." </p><p></p><p>Sending gentle hugs your way!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="graceupongrace, post: 299987, member: 7371"] Sharon, Sorry you have to deal with this. I do think talking to therapist & psychiatrist is a good idea. If he's violent/abusive/threatening over food, it's probably not really about the food, in my humble opinion. My rule is that if the kids fight about a food, or it otherwise becomes a problem, I won't buy it. I used to buy cinnamon rolls, and they'd fight about who ate more than their share, or I'd get enough for two days and they'd finish them in one day, so I stopped buying them. Same with desserts. And guess what -- we all still get the nutrition we need and no one feels deprived. (Well, difficult child complains about the lack of "good" food, but that's because he likes to complain. :raspberry-tounge:) My kitchen is always stocked with plenty of good, healthy food. The kids can grab a yogurt or make a sandwich (ham, turkey, chicken, leftover steak) anytime. They're happy to have a bowl of cereal as a snack. They like to cook eggs. difficult child constantly makes pb&j sandwiches -- not the best, but at least he's getting some protein. If they eat all of the "breakfast food" all day long, I won't race out to the store; they have to figure out something else for the next day's breakfast. If we want a treat, we go out for ice cream or frozen yogurt, or I buy/make enough for one night's dessert. That allows them a treat, but limits the availablity without resorting to locks. Yes, it would be nice to have more treats around the house (I'd love a brownie right now -- lol!). But on balance, it's not worth it. And I honestly think this strategy has helped the kids differentiate between "need" and "want." Sending gentle hugs your way! [/QUOTE]
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