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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 753183" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Many times on this site has been posted the truth that what we do for our kids, we do for ourselves...so that we can look in the mirror. As so, was this. You never had any control over how he used that money. Your intention was that he buy the coat. Universally, on this site, we have seen that what we want for our adult children, is just that, our wants. You have the choice to let go now, to accept that you sent that money off, with love, and hope, that he use it to keep warm. He chose not to.</p><p></p><p>Had you bought the actual coat, there is no guarantee he would have kept it any longer than it took to sell or trade it for something he wanted better. Josh right now is Josh. He is not who you wish he would be. You have no control here except over your own reactions and responses. But he is your son. I have found in my own situation it is not so easy to let go entirely. Perhaps, you can. Maybe not. For some of us it is a question of accepting the reality of what is right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 753183, member: 18958"] Many times on this site has been posted the truth that what we do for our kids, we do for ourselves...so that we can look in the mirror. As so, was this. You never had any control over how he used that money. Your intention was that he buy the coat. Universally, on this site, we have seen that what we want for our adult children, is just that, our wants. You have the choice to let go now, to accept that you sent that money off, with love, and hope, that he use it to keep warm. He chose not to. Had you bought the actual coat, there is no guarantee he would have kept it any longer than it took to sell or trade it for something he wanted better. Josh right now is Josh. He is not who you wish he would be. You have no control here except over your own reactions and responses. But he is your son. I have found in my own situation it is not so easy to let go entirely. Perhaps, you can. Maybe not. For some of us it is a question of accepting the reality of what is right now. [/QUOTE]
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