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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 753184" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I remember the day we brought Kay home and stepped off the airplane to a huge family gathering with signs and flowers. Kay has always been beautiful. Even as a baby she had thick soft dark hair, puppy dog eyes, carmel skin and heart shaped pink lips. And dimples!!! And we had her wrapped in a gorgeous pink blanket. My heart was so full. I expected this to be my only child and she was perfect to me. In a foolish motherly leap of faith, I already had her thriving in private school, in college and a Sorority and then working at our then new company. I had everything mapped out. We would be so close, so loving. She would be a dream daughter.</p><p></p><p>Of course, that image started cracking as soon as she started struggling in school and was yanked from private school. She had violent tantrums but I didn't really believe she wouldn't snap out of it until it got so bad in her teens</p><p>that we sent her to a behavioral high school, a boarding school for troubled kids.</p><p></p><p>It went downhill when she came home and met Lee.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I were shell shocked. Kay was on drugs, not working and had turned hateful. Everything in our life focused on fixing her but everything we did made things worse.</p><p></p><p>I never even entertained the idea that this daughter would become who she is. Ever.</p><p></p><p>Kay had it all too. Yes, she had learning disabilities but we paid for great tutors. We encouraged her amazing musical gifts which she no longer uses. She was and is tall and beautiful, her skin now marred with several tacky, large tattoos, one on her neck. She has a smaller pot related tattoo on her arm. She dresses in clothes that show every nook and cranny. Very low cut. Hair that turns from pink to green to yellow (not blond....canary yellow).</p><p></p><p>Oh well. It is what it is. I wanted the world for Kay. I learned not to decide how others will or should be, including my other kids.</p><p></p><p>I feel your pain with Josh. I too don't know Kay anymore and don't want this person in my life. Not now at least. One day? I hope so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 753184, member: 23706"] I remember the day we brought Kay home and stepped off the airplane to a huge family gathering with signs and flowers. Kay has always been beautiful. Even as a baby she had thick soft dark hair, puppy dog eyes, carmel skin and heart shaped pink lips. And dimples!!! And we had her wrapped in a gorgeous pink blanket. My heart was so full. I expected this to be my only child and she was perfect to me. In a foolish motherly leap of faith, I already had her thriving in private school, in college and a Sorority and then working at our then new company. I had everything mapped out. We would be so close, so loving. She would be a dream daughter. Of course, that image started cracking as soon as she started struggling in school and was yanked from private school. She had violent tantrums but I didn't really believe she wouldn't snap out of it until it got so bad in her teens that we sent her to a behavioral high school, a boarding school for troubled kids. It went downhill when she came home and met Lee. My husband and I were shell shocked. Kay was on drugs, not working and had turned hateful. Everything in our life focused on fixing her but everything we did made things worse. I never even entertained the idea that this daughter would become who she is. Ever. Kay had it all too. Yes, she had learning disabilities but we paid for great tutors. We encouraged her amazing musical gifts which she no longer uses. She was and is tall and beautiful, her skin now marred with several tacky, large tattoos, one on her neck. She has a smaller pot related tattoo on her arm. She dresses in clothes that show every nook and cranny. Very low cut. Hair that turns from pink to green to yellow (not blond....canary yellow). Oh well. It is what it is. I wanted the world for Kay. I learned not to decide how others will or should be, including my other kids. I feel your pain with Josh. I too don't know Kay anymore and don't want this person in my life. Not now at least. One day? I hope so. [/QUOTE]
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