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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 26836" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I think what concerns me more, in terms of their life success in relationships, is that because we keep coming back after all their spewage they've gotten the message that *everyone* will put up with- this junk. </p><p></p><p>thank you got a wake up call fairly early in life. A beloved Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff person, who thank you had barraged with the most vile racial slurs you can imagine and then some, finally had enough. He just shut down. Did his job, period. No socializing, no outings, none of the "extras" that is seems most Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff do. Just gave directions, monitored behavior, gave cues, monitored consequences. He did this on his own, and unfortunately I think was truly hurt by thank you's junk, but I think he was right on. thank you was baffled. I think he finally understood (for a moment anyway) that there is no one else in the world outside of his parents who will keep coming back for more of his abuse. Even his sibs, Weeburt especially, have had to draw a line in the sand. </p><p></p><p>I agree with- Barbara - whether or not they truly "love" us is beside the point. We love them, we're trying desperately to get them on the right track, I don't really care if he loves me or I'm a (insert expletive of the day). I love him, more deeply than he can know, but completely without any expectation of reciprocation.</p><p></p><p>But that's certainly not to say that his carelessness with- the people who really do love him doesn't hurt, a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 26836, member: 8"] I think what concerns me more, in terms of their life success in relationships, is that because we keep coming back after all their spewage they've gotten the message that *everyone* will put up with- this junk. thank you got a wake up call fairly early in life. A beloved Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff person, who thank you had barraged with the most vile racial slurs you can imagine and then some, finally had enough. He just shut down. Did his job, period. No socializing, no outings, none of the "extras" that is seems most Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff do. Just gave directions, monitored behavior, gave cues, monitored consequences. He did this on his own, and unfortunately I think was truly hurt by thank you's junk, but I think he was right on. thank you was baffled. I think he finally understood (for a moment anyway) that there is no one else in the world outside of his parents who will keep coming back for more of his abuse. Even his sibs, Weeburt especially, have had to draw a line in the sand. I agree with- Barbara - whether or not they truly "love" us is beside the point. We love them, we're trying desperately to get them on the right track, I don't really care if he loves me or I'm a (insert expletive of the day). I love him, more deeply than he can know, but completely without any expectation of reciprocation. But that's certainly not to say that his carelessness with- the people who really do love him doesn't hurt, a lot. [/QUOTE]
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