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Do you ever feel like diagnoses are harmful?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 732141" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Let me tell you what I wish somebody had done for me at that age:</p><p></p><p>1. Help me get to an expressive art therapist. Some use music. Or painting. Or drama. Or dance.</p><p></p><p>2. Equine therapy. There are free and sliding scale equestrian programs for youth and adults. Horses have and transmit a deep calm and help us learn how to achieve this state.</p><p></p><p>3. Introduced me to meditation and yoga. Especially vipassana. A good intro is a book called loving kindness by Salzberg.</p><p></p><p>4. Introduced me to a martial art. With private lessons at first. With the right teacher.</p><p></p><p>The first two of these in particular would give her the support of a trained adult, and a constructive way to express and make sense of her feelings. It would also give her an interest that could serve her whole life.</p><p></p><p>As we speak I am doing number 1 and 3. I go to a therapist that uses movement and teaches me how to handle my emotions and be in touch and guided by my deepest self. (Who knew?)Had I known this a lifetime ago who knows what my life would have been. And I have been learning Brazilian jiu-jitsu jitsu, a martial art. It is fun.</p><p></p><p>The thing is you do not really know what she is dealing with. She may be being bullied. Or there could be some other form of pressure or abuse. It may not be her problem but something she does not know how to handle. My martial arts teacher is half my age! But I tell him everything. When I am sad. Overwhelmed. I tell him about my past and who hurt me. He got into this because he was bullied!</p><p></p><p>The thing is each of these activities would make me feel good about myself. Not diagnosed. Supported. My world would be bigger and richer. And each of these activities would be a means to express and deal with anxiety, overwhelm, or much of what we deal with in life that puts us over the edge, supported.</p><p></p><p>Shut my mind off could be rumination, obsessive or racing thoughts, even hallucinations. It could also be anxiety. Or guilt.</p><p></p><p>But the thing is it could be none of these things. She could be a very high achiever and put herself under pressure. But if we think of counselling and therapy as expressing ourselves with support, to understand ourselves and lives, rather than diagnosing or treating, what would be the down side?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 732141, member: 18958"] Let me tell you what I wish somebody had done for me at that age: 1. Help me get to an expressive art therapist. Some use music. Or painting. Or drama. Or dance. 2. Equine therapy. There are free and sliding scale equestrian programs for youth and adults. Horses have and transmit a deep calm and help us learn how to achieve this state. 3. Introduced me to meditation and yoga. Especially vipassana. A good intro is a book called loving kindness by Salzberg. 4. Introduced me to a martial art. With private lessons at first. With the right teacher. The first two of these in particular would give her the support of a trained adult, and a constructive way to express and make sense of her feelings. It would also give her an interest that could serve her whole life. As we speak I am doing number 1 and 3. I go to a therapist that uses movement and teaches me how to handle my emotions and be in touch and guided by my deepest self. (Who knew?)Had I known this a lifetime ago who knows what my life would have been. And I have been learning Brazilian jiu-jitsu jitsu, a martial art. It is fun. The thing is you do not really know what she is dealing with. She may be being bullied. Or there could be some other form of pressure or abuse. It may not be her problem but something she does not know how to handle. My martial arts teacher is half my age! But I tell him everything. When I am sad. Overwhelmed. I tell him about my past and who hurt me. He got into this because he was bullied! The thing is each of these activities would make me feel good about myself. Not diagnosed. Supported. My world would be bigger and richer. And each of these activities would be a means to express and deal with anxiety, overwhelm, or much of what we deal with in life that puts us over the edge, supported. Shut my mind off could be rumination, obsessive or racing thoughts, even hallucinations. It could also be anxiety. Or guilt. But the thing is it could be none of these things. She could be a very high achiever and put herself under pressure. But if we think of counselling and therapy as expressing ourselves with support, to understand ourselves and lives, rather than diagnosing or treating, what would be the down side? [/QUOTE]
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