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Does anyone remember "Goodnight, Moon"?
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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 37447" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: hearthope</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I have reread your post several times Barbara.</p><p></p><p>Do we make ourselves hold on to the pain because to let go and move on would mean defeat and failure?</p><p></p><p>Do we want so badly for our children to be okay, that we are unwilling ourselves to experience joy because we know that they are not? </p><p></p><p>Do we ask ourselves What kind of mother could possibly be happy when her child is in such shape?</p><p></p><p>It is almost as though we were addicts ourselves. This must be what it feels like to crave a drug. No matter how hard we try to move past it, there it is surfacing. Constantly on our minds, no matter how hard we try to fight it.</div></div></p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. I know with my Mom's addiction & mental illness (which is bad, but probably not as painful as it being one's child) I find myself clinging to the pain she's caused along the way. The only reason I can think that I do that is that I fear the pain may be all I have left of that my relationship with her. To let go of the pain completely may very well mean I let go of her completely. I haven't quite figured out how to separate out all the pain, so it stays.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 37447, member: 1722"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: hearthope</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I have reread your post several times Barbara. Do we make ourselves hold on to the pain because to let go and move on would mean defeat and failure? Do we want so badly for our children to be okay, that we are unwilling ourselves to experience joy because we know that they are not? Do we ask ourselves What kind of mother could possibly be happy when her child is in such shape? It is almost as though we were addicts ourselves. This must be what it feels like to crave a drug. No matter how hard we try to move past it, there it is surfacing. Constantly on our minds, no matter how hard we try to fight it.</div></div> My heart goes out to you. I know with my Mom's addiction & mental illness (which is bad, but probably not as painful as it being one's child) I find myself clinging to the pain she's caused along the way. The only reason I can think that I do that is that I fear the pain may be all I have left of that my relationship with her. To let go of the pain completely may very well mean I let go of her completely. I haven't quite figured out how to separate out all the pain, so it stays. [/QUOTE]
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