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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 141921" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>We just made another discovery today that has thrown husband for a complete loop ... </p><p></p><p>When difficult child 2 was home last week on spring break, I was apprehensive about him sneaking alcohol, given his history and the fact that he broke up with his girlfriend the second day home. (He typically excuses his drinking by blaming some sort of stress, so the breakup would be a perfect scapegoat.) I put away - well, hid in some pretty bizarre places, since difficult child 2 has gone into my closet etc. before in search of alcohol - all the liquor and just left some wine in the wine rack, thinking that he wouldn't be willing to obviously open wine bottles. </p><p></p><p>I thought he did well all week. Didn't smell alcohol on him, didn't find anything worrying. Then, on the morning I drove him back to college, he smelled of alcohol. He denied it angrily and wasn't impaired then, there was just the smell. I searched his room and bathroom when I got home and found nothing.</p><p></p><p>Today at dinner I went to take a bottle of white wine out of the rack and it was empty. It was a screwtop wine and he'd emptied it and tucked it back in. I hadn't noticed that some of our wines had screwtops! Then I checked the red wine rack and six bottles were missing. I found two empties right in the recycling bin; I haven't found the others yet. These were all $20 bottles of wine. </p><p></p><p>husband was stunned. He's avoided confronting difficult child 2 about his drinking so far, but this plus the recent episodes is impossible to explain away. husband has decided that difficult child won't be allowed to drive our cars again. I'm relieved about that. But my suggestion that we insist difficult child go to rehab as a condition of coming home didn't get any response.</p><p></p><p>I'm completely depressed. I spent a lot of time with difficult child 2 last week, concerned about his breakup, and he was pleasant to talk with, reasonable, and calm. I thought we'd had a good week. I thought he was coping with the breakup very well. And now I find it was all a lie. He can act well enough to win an Oscar. </p><p></p><p>He's been lying to me all his life and it still hurts. I really hate this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 141921, member: 2884"] We just made another discovery today that has thrown husband for a complete loop ... When difficult child 2 was home last week on spring break, I was apprehensive about him sneaking alcohol, given his history and the fact that he broke up with his girlfriend the second day home. (He typically excuses his drinking by blaming some sort of stress, so the breakup would be a perfect scapegoat.) I put away - well, hid in some pretty bizarre places, since difficult child 2 has gone into my closet etc. before in search of alcohol - all the liquor and just left some wine in the wine rack, thinking that he wouldn't be willing to obviously open wine bottles. I thought he did well all week. Didn't smell alcohol on him, didn't find anything worrying. Then, on the morning I drove him back to college, he smelled of alcohol. He denied it angrily and wasn't impaired then, there was just the smell. I searched his room and bathroom when I got home and found nothing. Today at dinner I went to take a bottle of white wine out of the rack and it was empty. It was a screwtop wine and he'd emptied it and tucked it back in. I hadn't noticed that some of our wines had screwtops! Then I checked the red wine rack and six bottles were missing. I found two empties right in the recycling bin; I haven't found the others yet. These were all $20 bottles of wine. husband was stunned. He's avoided confronting difficult child 2 about his drinking so far, but this plus the recent episodes is impossible to explain away. husband has decided that difficult child won't be allowed to drive our cars again. I'm relieved about that. But my suggestion that we insist difficult child go to rehab as a condition of coming home didn't get any response. I'm completely depressed. I spent a lot of time with difficult child 2 last week, concerned about his breakup, and he was pleasant to talk with, reasonable, and calm. I thought we'd had a good week. I thought he was coping with the breakup very well. And now I find it was all a lie. He can act well enough to win an Oscar. He's been lying to me all his life and it still hurts. I really hate this. [/QUOTE]
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